(Closed) So..I think my son's kindergarden teacher hates me..:( Advice Needed

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MissFlowerPot:  I told her I used to teach preschool

This is why she’s behaving this way.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She sounds like a bitch. You should set up a meeting and talk with her directly about this. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hisprettygirl:  I don’t know if she’s a bitch.  But she is feeling threatened by someone who knows how a classroom should be properly run and who has a lot of experience with it.  What she wants is someone who will take orders and never question anything. 

Someone who has been a teacher is closer to being an equal peer and that is not what she is looking for in a “helper.”

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Sunfire:  Agree. No teacher wants a parent with experience in her class which I think is stupid. She probably thinks you might out do her in her territory. If this helps i see my parents volunteer in my kids schools in the library. Try there first even though you already spoke ot the principal let her know the teacher doesnt need you but you want to help out in the school.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I don’t think it’s happening. I would let it go and volunteer elsewhere. It’s a bummer so I’m sorry, sounds like you really want to. She may have taken offense to the healthy/snack/etc maybe she thinks you doubt her abilities, hard to say. Regardless, I would let it go. Enjoy your free time.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Is she a first year teacher? That could explain a lot. First year teachers are prone to feeling threatened by people with experience. They want to hold their own and prove they can handle the challenge of being a teacher without anyone’s help.

It doesn’t make sense, but it does happen. 

I’m a third year Early Childhood Ed student and we feel judged and threatened during our field work a LOT. Then, they expect you to be perfect once they hand you your own class. It’s intimidating. It’s terrifying, even long before you have a job. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would let it go. Maybe she knows some of the other parents personally and would rather have them with her. If you keep asking her and confronting her about it she probably will not like you, which may in turn make it difficult for your son. I’m sorry this is happening when you really wanted to be a part of it, but maybe it’s good for your son to have a little indepent time.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MissFlowerPot:    Because you aren’t just any parent – you have experience doing her job, or a job very similar to hers.  It might be unreasonable (and I agree that it is on her part) but I would bet anything this is her reason.

I feel for you.  It’s not fair to you at all.  ((HUGS)).  I’m not sure there’s anything you can do to change it at this point.  You could try talking to her but, honestly, it probably won’t do much good.

She wants volunteers she feels don’t know anything about what she does.  Maybe she’s inexperienced or insecure, who knows, or is afraid you would criticize her.  Someone who does not have teaching experience would just go with the flow and she wouldn’t be worried about that.  Make sense? 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i would have mentioned something to the principal straight out.

i know that you want to help out but do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t like you?  she obviously is just threatened by you.  is there any way you can get your son into the new teacher’s class when she comes?  then hopefully there won’t be that tension.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah, definitely the fact that she would feel threatened with you in the classroom. Out of all the parents, you’re probably the only one who has experience with large groups of children. Every time there was a behavior issue or anything going less than stellar she would be worried about being judged or that you could do better. Perhaps there’s some other place you can volunteer at at the school, but she’s probably going to avoid using you as a volunteer unless there’s no other choice. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I used to teach preschool, too, and teachers are very territorial when it comes to experience. When we had parent volunteers, we were always more wary of the parents who had been involved with children in the past because they are often more critical of how the teacher runs things. Not saying that you would be that way, but it’s just kind of how it is. I’m sorry 🙁 Next year, just say you love kids and want to help out in any way possible, leaving out the preschool teaching days. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Isn’t it sad that some women tend to be catty and threatened by others instead of bonding together towards a common goal, which would benefit each other and the children?

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