(Closed) Some advice for an ignorant non-Catholic?

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

We got married in the Catholic church and I’m not Catholic nor am I converting and it worked out just fine – I showed them my baptismal certificate from the church I went to growing up.  We still did pre-cana and meetings with the priest. 

We wanted to be married in a place and by someone who was significant in our lives and my husbands church fit the bill.  It was where he grew up, went to school, and by a priest he’d known most of his life. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It depends on the church but the churchs in my area as long as the non-catholic spouse commits to raising their children catholic you can get married in the catholic church.

If you don’t get married in the catholic church but get your children baptised catholic they will be able to attend church with him.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If your kids get baptized, receive their first holy communion, and get confirmed then they will have no problem for their future. My friends mom is Catholic and her dad is Jewish and she attended sunday school with me. She will be able to get married in a church if she chose to. However, if your kids do not get confirmed, that will cause problems. FI’s brother didnt get confirmed and had to take classes in order to get married in the church. I’m pretty sure this applies everywhere. Other bees feel free to correct me if i’m wrong!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can have your marriage recognized by the church without you becoming Catholic. For this to happen, you will need to have a Catholic wedding. You do NOT need to do a full mass, but it will need to be in a church, officiated by a priest, etc.

In a Catholic wedding sans mass, you will have scripture readings, a preaching, vows, the our father, and prayer intentions. So, in the end, not much different from a protestant wedding, etc… 

It sounds to me as if you have discussed this to a point, which is great. If you husband-to-be does plan on still receiving communion, and bringing your one day future kids to mass, than the marriage needs to be blessed by the church. Either through a Catholic marriage service (again, not full mass) or by con-validation. Until the min. of con-validation happens, your Fiance will not be able to receive communion (I think.).

If you do not get married in the church, and you do not get your marriage validated by the church, your Fiance will not be able to receive communion and maybe not even future sacraments like sacrament of the sick, etc (totally unclear on that). If your kids are baptized/first communion/etc THEY will be able to no problems.

Do you mind me asking what faith you are a part of, if any? We could have more specific answers for your blending if we knew… 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

As long as either the bride or the groom is Cathloic and you promise to raise your kids Cathloic you can get married in the Church. Most Priests will discuss this with you and see you your differences in faith might impact your lives. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@Beelieve:  You can get married in the Church.  They have a special process for you and your Fiance.  You have to promise to raise them Catholic.  Contact a local parish.  Is your fiance practicing?  If not, then it may be difficult to get married.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

If your Fiance has a parish or priest he’d want to get married in or is close to I would start by going there.  I’m not sure what is required if you aren’t baptized but I know the priest who married us said it would have been more difficult, but what more difficult means I donno.  But I would go and see how comfortable you are after talking to a priest.  For me it really alleviated worries I had to speak with the priest directly and he gave us a lot of guidance on the process.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

So I just read some stuff and marriage btwn a Catholic and unbaptized person is not Sacramental and therefore is just a natural marriage.  In order to participate in Sacraments, you need to be baptized…baptism is in of itself a Sacrament.  You can still get married in the Church and it will be valid.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

One point of clarification…only the Catholic needs to make the promise “to do everything in his power to raise his children in the Catholic faith.” The non-Catholic does NOT have to promise, but only understand the promise that the Catholic is making. 

As a Lutheran marrying a Catholic, we had several sessions with our priest to clarify exactly what getting married in the church meant.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Beelieve: have you been baptized at your church into Christian Faith? 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I am catholic.. and my Fiance isn’t ( he is christian) Hes dad is a pastor.. we went to church off and on… So we are getting married by his dads pastor friend. The pastor knows i have no desire to become christian but he said as long as we both believe in Jesus that is all taht matters. We agreed to raise our children as both as long as they also believe in Jesus Christ.  I do still plan on baptizing my children

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MrsJVP: you know you’re already Christian…. right? Catholics ARE Christians 🙂

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