(Closed) Some advice from those already married…

posted 6 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hmm. We could’ve done without the drink stirrers that I took an entire Sunday to make. I think maybe one person picked one up? 

I also made some glitter signs that I ended up not even using because they were getting glitter EVERYWHERE and I didn’t want my poor guests to have to run around with blue glitter on them (not to mention, me!). 

Oh! We also tried to make our own centerpieces and we ended up not even using the stuff we bought for them. 

Moral of the story–I should’ve planned my DIYs better. I would get an idea and run with it, and then later think about how it would fit into my wedding.

I think that’s really about it. My mom and I did a lot of the work for my sister’s wedding, so we were pretty good at paring stuff down. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

We got speciality soda in glass bottles and hardly anyone drank it. Could have just bought standard coke and had it served from the bar just the same.

We skipped the bathroom basket. But did a flip flop basket which was a huge success.

I think we could have skipped escort cards and just done a seating chart which would have saved me some stress, then again we used the escort cards as a way to indicate who ordered which meal. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I made these placecards for each seat with a thank you to our families and friends… It was really cute but the set up crew forgot/didn’t set them out on the tables. I was kind of bummed, but it wasn’t a huge deal. They also didn’t set out the chalkboard signs at the bar with the drink options, and I spent a lot of time on them. No I e missed it ( except for me) and everyone has a drink in their hand so it wasn’t essential!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I bought 300 personalized napkins that were supposed to be used at the bar and served with my cake and my venue only used about 80 of them for 150 guests. 🙁

There were a couple things that I bought that I could not return from craft stores, also my first pair of shoes were custom and I didn’t wear them and couldn’t return them.

Basically you shouldn’t spend too much time on many things. I spent a lot of time cutting our table identifications and making our favors. They were noticed and people loved them. We did a basket of mints in each bathroom and that was enough. I saw a lot of mints being taken by guests. No need for a bunch of candy or other bathroom stuff.

My biggest advice on DIY: I would try out each DIY project first way ahead of time to make sure it’s even something you would be interested in doing. I did a trial of my centerpieces, my favors and my table identification before I bought all the stuff for the wedding.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We didn’t do any DIY.  I would have liked to have spent less money on the centerpieces.  Flip flop basket was a big hit.  We bought a bunch of flip flops from the dollar store a few days beforehand.  We didn’t do favors in the conventional sense, but I see a lot of them left behind at almost every wedding I’ve attended, so I wouldn’t spend a lot of time on favors.

I wish I would have assigned someone to tell people where to sit during the ceremony, or made some kind of sign.  People left the first row on each side open because they thought our parents were sitting there, but they were under the huppah with us.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would forget the lounge furniture.  It looked nice but no one used it.  That was the biggest waste in my opinion.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Thank god I skipped everything I deemed to be unimportant – favours, ushers, flower girls, hundreds of pounds spent on flowers.  The one thing I wish I’d skipped was asking my godmothers daughter to be a bridesmaid.  She was unresponsive, blank and spent the whole day with a face on……we haven’t spoken for EXACTLY a year today.  Good riddance.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

guestbook. I don’t feel like we got any heartfelt messages that we didnt get from our cards – just signatures.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The favors, even though my Darling Husband is a golfer (we did personalized golf tees) and have a ton left over which is okay with Darling Husband but he hasn’t used any and we have been married over a year now. 

Guest book, waste of money

Center pieces, waste of money.  I found a lady on Ebay who made me center pieces and yep now they sit in storage. Tried to sell them, nope no bites hell even tried to give them away to a co worker (her daughter is getting married next year and at one point was considering the same colors I used)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My guestbook. I bought one on sale and my mom hooked it up really nice. Out of about 80 people only like 5 signed and left no advice no nothing. The favor boxes. Many people took the jordan almonds out and left the damn boxes at the table. Money spent on my DIY pomanders for my pews. The SIL that helped decorate the church had no idea how to hang them from a pew hanger and ended up cutting of the ribbons and sticking the pomaders through the pew hangers. Yes a huge hole on the ball. DIY bouqets never made it to the church. We ended up getting real ones made.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I got chocolate-dipped fortune cookies with cute little love quotes inside… barely anyone ate them Surprised

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Bellagiobride:  For us it was yea,  it was money could have used else where. Sure I got a few comments how nice they were but afterwards what the the heck are we going to do with all these center pieces?  I seriously have like 2 or 3 big boxes in storage taking of space! 

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