(Closed) Some advice on tipping, please!

posted 6 years ago in New York City
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I may be wrong about this, but I don’t think that service charge is the same as the tip… 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just posted about the same thing hopefully we can find some answers. I dont think with tip buit in you need to tio them again. Our vendors dont have built in gratuitys so I am trying to figure out what a appropriate amount is for each

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The service charge is NOT ALWAYS the same at the tip. You can ask your vendor to be sure, but at our venue it is not the same thing. We will be tipping everyone on top of the service charge.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

At our venue their is a 15% charge for gratuities so I won’t be tipping at all, with tax and gratuity each plate is $4 more. I don’t think you need to tip more if it’s already in with the pricing

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Usually the service charge is the tip, I would ask to be sure. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

If the service charge is 20% it had better be the tip.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Again, I could be wrong, but:

“What’s the difference between a gratuity and a service charge?

Many catering facilities tack on a service charge of 20 percent, and couples think that this covers the staff tips, but it doesn’t. It is often used to cover things like fuel costs, overhead, and wear and tear. You’ll probably have to bring a stash of cash to tip the staff. Most brides tip 15 to 20 percent of the total bill and give that amount, in cash, to the maître d’ or the wedding planner, who will then distribute it.”

(From Real Simple)

 

I’m with you, the 20% should include the tip, but I’d double check with your vendor just to make sure…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@abbie017:  I agree with this in general (that it is not usually the tip).

However, you could always ask to be sure. My caterer told me specifically that 100% of my “service charge” would go to the service staff as a tip. As this worked out to quite a bit per person, I didn’t feel inclined to leave an additional tip (and I trusted the caterer I worked with to tell me the truth, he was very helpful & honest with me throughout the entire process, so I had no reason to believe he was lying).

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If a service charge WAS NOT the tip, I would just wish they would have made that total their base costs. It’s deceiving to me!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jml0717:  In this case, I’m sorry to be right! 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@jml0717:  I think it’s deceiving, too! It’s also frustrating, because the servers probably do get “stiffed” unknowingly often because people assume the service charge will go to the servers (since, really, it SHOULD, but usually doesn’t). What an annoying system. I was so happy to hear my caterer actually gives it to his staff. 

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