(Closed) some Bee’s dresses…. “honest” opinions??? really?

posted 7 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
Member
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ronneykay:  I know the feeling.  I only say something if they are asking for an opinion though.  Otherwise, I usually X out of the thread. 

Post # 4
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2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If someone is asking for an opinion, I will give it… But if someone is just saying “Hey! Here is my dress and I LOVE it!!” Then I keep quiet.

Sometimes if I am tired or grumpy I will not comment rather than post an opinion that might be seen as rude rather than constructive : )

 

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if i see a bride and dress and think ugggh i usually keep quite and not post – but ive only thought that in a very few handful of threads.  only one comes to mind where i was good god woman, hell no but i still kept that opinion to myself

Post # 7
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i think that when i post my ideas whether it be dress or anything else, if i don’t get many replies i assume bee’s don’t like so don’t comment rather than commenting honestly. i’m not sure how i would take the honesty…. depends on how it’s written….. rude comments are in fact just that so they would not be welcomed but if someone said….. i think you’d look lovely in ________________ then i would see that as constructive critism instead. i kinda of hope my dress isn’t one of these you mention is i love my dress but i have only tried on a small few…. so maybe you constructive critism would mean i looked more and was able to find something better. i don’t think any of my fellow bee’s would comment just to be rude but because they truely thought they were aiding in my ulitmate goal of looking the best that i could. the one thing that is hard about commenting is that very little of a brides personality is known, you may think oh stokiegal your dress is lovely but is it maybe a bit traditonal and your only 27 have you thought of something more so and so….. the reasons for my dress choice could be that i am resevered (i’m not) i actuall want something that covers all my body flaws and that dress did just that. 

apologies if i’ve rambled or gone of point… i hope you get what i’m saying…. 

 

 

Post # 8
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188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

my personal opinion, for example, if a bee hasn’t decided on “the dress” and they show a couple that they have tried on, I will state my opinion on which one I like; but if a bee has found “the dress” their glow of being so happy about it out weighs my personal opinion.  I feel like a lot of it has to do with personal taste.  someone may not like my dress, but i love it, and as the bride that’s most important. Not only does someone feel beatiful on their wedding, but also confident!

Post # 11
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

There have definitely been times where I have opened a thread and thought that the bride picked the WRONG dress. Normally, if it’s already been bought and she’s happy with it, I just back out and don’t say anything. I’m not about to post a fake reply about how I love it, but I’m not going to comment that I don’t either.

If she’s making a choice and wants an honest opinion, I try to give mine in the most tactful way possible. I usually try to form my opinions as constructive criticism.

Post # 15
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Usually if I’m really thinking “Oh girl, no” I just click out.

But most of the time I’ll point out the positives and then make a suggestion about another design elements that might not work.

More often than not I think brides tend to overstyle themselves. It’s like they have all these things they like and try to cram them all in on one dress since they are only going to be wearing it once. So most of my advice tends to be in the “less is more” category. You don’t need head to toe jewelry, tiara, veil, bows, ruching, corset, ruffles, layers, lace, feathers, big flower appliques, beading, sequins and a see through bodice all on the same dress.

Post # 16
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5761 posts
Bee Keeper

I think it is very hard to try and not break someone’s heart and to read into what they are really asking, as so many times they are hoping that the majority of opinions will be leaning towards the one they love.

 I also think sometimes its a little easier to be objective and strictly look at the overall style on a body as opposed to actually knowing the person and their personal style or quirks or personality and to give an opinion.

Polls make it easier and are less harsh.

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