(Closed) Some constants on this site I've noticed

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

I want to get married so I can change my name…Cool

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that’s because for a lot of us the Bee is a safe place to talk about any issues we’re having without broadcasting them to people we know IRL.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think I get your point.  My Fiance and I are in premarrital counseling.  Even if I had labido loss, got annoyed by FB creepers, and thought about my ex while planning my wedding, I’d still be wanting to get married.  WB is just a place to exchange ideas.

Post # 6
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183 posts
Blushing bee

@MissBoPeep:  Yes. That’s exactly why I come here. Why would I talk to people IRL and have them judge my relationship when I can get SO many different views and opinions coming to the bee-without ANY judgement.

Post # 7
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

@baileyryan12:   I come here because of the community, there is no judgement and the talk is freely given in a spirit of helping the “ailing” bee…

And I surely hope that when I do have a major problem the bee will be there for me!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I agree with #3. I used to be a facebook addict, and I didn’t know how I could ever live without it. I didn’t get internet when I moved to my new apartment as a way to save money, and I’m surprisingly okay with not having it. I can use internet at work (like I’m doing right now..haha), so that might help a little. Facebook is blocked at work though so I can’t go on it even if I wanted to.

As much as I loved Facebook, curiousity would ultimately get the best of me and it was too easy to torture myself by looking at pictures of my SO with his ex, and posts he would write on other people’s walls, and statuses he would like. As silly as it sounds, even though I had just seen him a few hours ago, I would get jealous that he wrote on someone else’s wall and not mine. I can definitely see how facebook can add unnecessary drama to any relationship. I can honestly say I’ve been much happier not having it.

Post # 10
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I dont get the intention of this post….

I feel like there is more I want to say, but that’s all i can come up with..

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Calybug:  I’m confident happyface was joking, given the smiley face after her comment. 

Interesting comments and assessments on what you have noticed, but I think most of us come here to discuss things with other people in similar situations. So it’s no surprise that you are seeing patterns. I’ve gotten fantastic advice and learned a ton from this site. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Calybug:  You said, “Reading these issues constantly though is starting to make me wonder why anyone is getting married, even why I am getting married. “

So I was responding to that.  I think you see these issues “constantly” on WB because for a lot of us the Bee is a safe place to talk about any issues we’re having without broadcasting them to people we know IRL.  That doesn’t mean these issues are more prevalent or that people shouldn’t be getting married, it just means you see it more because a lot of people come here to talk about it.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Calybug:  Gotta tell you that saying you’re not sure why you or anyone is getting married because of what a few people (out of 200k members) post in a world-wide, public message board makes me a little confused.  

The hard topics get the most attention around here, and once you’ve been around longer you’ll see that it’s the truth.  For every unhappy post there are 5 more happy ones behind it that don’t get as many hits.

But really, to use this as your basis for why people -including you- shouldn’t get married?  That seems a little off to me.  There’s way too many generalizations being thrown around in your post and intention, to me.

 

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Realizing there are potentially thousands of women here, from all around the world – of all ages, beliefs, cultures and circumstances – I think it’s perfectly understandable and inevitable there will be stories of hardship in our relationships as well as stories of good in them. 

The good thing about it is we’re all here for each other in the common bond of:  Just being here.  No reason needed.

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