Member- Creiddylad
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
So a couple of nights ago, my SO and I were talking, and I brought up some statistics from that study/book about marriage someone posted on here recently– I don’t know which thread it is, but basically the two statistics that bothered me were:
After 3.5 years of a couple being together, their chances of getting engaged and marrying go way down. After 7 years, the chances are virtually nonexistent.
Men have “windows of opportunity” for when they usually get married. It’s about from age 26 to age 38. After 38, fewer men get married; after 40, almost none do if they have never been married before.
I hated these statistics because, guess what– my SO and I are soon going to be in our 4th year of being together (in March), and he is about to turn 41, and has bever been married. So I told him, rather miserably, about these statistics, because I haven’t been able to tell if he does want to marry me at some point. . . and his response was:
“Those are just generalizations, they don’t apply to everyone.”
I said, “I know, but I can’t help but worry about that stuff. . .”
He said, “You do not need to worry about that, my dear– those statistics do not apply in this situation.” (That’s the way he talks sometimes– it sounds weird when written, but he said it very warmly and nicely).
You know what he was saying with that statement???!!!!! He DOES want to get married to me!!!!! EEEEEEEKK!!! 😀 😀
And we do have a casual timeline– I told him I would NOT be happy if we were together for more than 5 years or so without getting engaged. So it will probably happen for us in the next 1 to 1 1/2 years. Yay! (Though I do wish it would be less than that).
And, added fun thing– he’s into miniature sculpting, and it got me thinking one day about how I want to try small-scale sculpting– in wax, for making jewelry models. I said something about that to him, and he thought that was a cool idea and wanted to try, too. And then I discovered that there are companies that will cast your wax model in silver, gold, or platinum. And then I discovered books on wax modeling and setting gems. . . so I think I’m going to get some books and wax and start on this. Through all of this, my SO was very enthusiastic and interested, making me wonder if maybe he is thinking, “aha! A way to make a beautiful ring and not spend huge amounts of money, and have it be really cool!” Of course he probably was not thinking that, but the option is now there. And since money is an issue for us, it would be pretty fantastic if we could make our own rings! (I should note that I have some metal jewelry-making experience already).
While this might not be what you expected from the title, it’s still darn good news and makes me feel SO much better about life!!!!
