Some guests will have to stand for ceremony,

posted 2 years ago in Venue
Post # 31
50 posts
Worker bee

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bluejaybride :  Oooh that sounds like a lovely venue to patronize! A couple of ideas. First, could you bring in bar stools? Then more people could sit but they take up much less space then chairs. Second, I’d definitely encourage people to wear comfortable shoes on your invites. 

Post # 32
1037 posts
Bumble bee

Most of our guests stood for our ceremony, which was a little under 15 minutes. Even one of my friends who was 7 months pregnant – she chose to stand for the whole thing (we had some chairs around the edges of the ceremony area for those who needed to sit, but most chose not to). Our wedding was on a yacht and we segued directly from the ceremony to the reception/dancing in the same spot on the boat. There were no issues – not even for my Mother-In-Law in her late 70s with back issues (we had parents and kids standing at the front with us). 

As long as it’s not terribly hot/humid, I don’t see it as a problem as long as though who need to sit have access to chairs. 

Post # 33
2543 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve been to a few weddings and even memorial services where several guests chose to stand even though there were enough seats. They were mostly younger guys but there were definitely women that chose to stand too. Normally I would say no way, don’t book this but you’re already in so deep and I don’t think it’s that big of a deal in this situation. Just keep it short and sweet and make sure everyone can hear and see you.

Post # 34
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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bluejaybride :  I have the same issue with my venue, as our ceremony will be hosted in an ourdoor garden. They have seating for up to 100 guests. After that you either have ot rent further chairs from elsewhere or people stand.

Initially this wasn’t a concern for me, as our guest list was a max 130. So I figured with a few no’s we would have closer to 100 people at most. Well since then my guest list has exploded and we are now expecting closer to 160.

All in all, I’m not wiorrying about it. If there are not enough seats and some people have to stand – so be it. It’s not the end of the world. Unless you are having a very long 2+ hour ceremony, I don’t think it is a big deal to stand for 20-30 minutes.

Plus, I have heard less people usually attend the cermeony and show up to the reception afetr the fact. So honestly, I wouldnt worry about it. Make sure everyone who needs a seat gets one, and everyone else can just figure it out.

Re: people stating women in heels getting uncomfortable. Well my opinion on that is if you cant stand in your shoes for 20 minutes, you shouldn’t be wearing them to a wedding. Whenever I put on a pair of heels before going anywhere, I make a commitment that I will stay in them come hell or high water until I get home. If you can’t stand in your high heels – you should choose a more comfortable pair.

Post # 35
834 posts
Busy bee

Based on everything you’ve said I don’t think it’s that big of deal to have some guests stand for 20 minutes. I get invisible disabilities and certain things going on that some people can’t stand for that long but it’s not everyone and you still have plenty of seats. Not like 70% of people will be standing. And if someone can’t stand in heels for 15 minutes then they probably shouldn’t be wearing those heels because that’s really not that long to stand for.  

Post # 36
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

At my wedding, about 1/3 of people had to stand. The ‘adults’ all mostly sat and my grown up cousins mostly stood. No one was upset. I have been to plenty of weddings where people have to stand, I think it just depends on the overall feel of your wedding. If it is super casual (like mine was) then it likely won’t be an issue. 

Post # 37
2710 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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bluejaybride :  I also got married at one of the top-ranked zoos in the US! Woot woot for zoo weddings! Anyways… I have also stood at weddings before, both times I didn’t know I’d be standing but I generally don’t wear shoes that are uncomfortable so I was physically fine with it. I’d say standing for ceremonies when some are sitting IMO makes some checkout mentally. You can’t see all the time or are shifting your weight. It’s a lot easier to sit still for 20 minutes than to stand. But guests will live. It’s not ideal but it’s not the end of the world


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