(Closed) Some Immediate Family Not Invited

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sounds like you need to let those Sisters work out their own problems and drama! You make the call! And ask your Aunts to drop it! Sorry they are dragging you through this, dont get sucked into it! Best of Luck!

Post # 4
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am also being semi-bullied into inviting certain family members that I wouldn’t if everybody else didn’t apparently care so much about appearances.  Some people don’t seem to understand that sometimes, how things look is not as important as how things feel.  I don’t really have any advice, because I caved and agreed to invite the offending parties, but I did want to give you a hug and tell you I FEEL YOUR PAIN!

Post # 5
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4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My opinion? It’s your day, you invite who you want. If I knew my mom didn’t get along with one of her siblings that I wasn’t close to, I wouldn’t invite them no matter what anyone else says, because my mom is important to me and I want her to be happy and comfortable on my wedding day.

My fiance has a large family and we’re not inviting a couple of his uncles & aunts, simply because we’re not close with them and we need to save money. Good luck!

Post # 6
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5761 posts
Bee Keeper

Can’t your Mom deal with Aunt 2 and tell her how she feels? I’d never get in the middle of it, but you may have no choice if they make it your problem. This is an important day for your Mom too, and I’d want her to be happy and not worry about anything except making sure you have a great wedding day. I just wouldn’t invite Aunt 1, period.

Post # 8
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Best of luck with dealing with Aunt 1 (and Aunt 2 who doesn’t give up). You sound like you’ve thought this through and have good reasons. You said they’re both strong willed to the point of bossy, but if you can show them that you can stand up for yourself and your mother while being respectful but firm, that’s a great precedent you’d want to set. I agree with @deliciousappleblue:, it’s about how things feel, not how they look. So do what will make you and your loved ones most comfortable on your wedding day and enjoy yourself. I’ve made decisions like this too, not inviting some family to our wedding, and as long as you’ve thought about your choice and are firm, they’ll get the point.

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