(Closed) Some last minute proposal advice, please!

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

You don’t need to do ANYTHING fancy. You don’t need a fancy hotel or a suite, or even a non-fancy hotel to be honest. We are exposed to so much stuff that portrays extravagant, flamboyant proposals but actually the important bit is the mutual agreement to spend the rest of your lives together.

If you are putting thought into it and having your girlfriend’s best interests in mind then it could be done at home in your living room and it would be equally lovely as a suite in a 5* hotel.

If your girlfriend is chill and neither of you would be that happy with spending the money on an expensive hotel, how about booking a getaway and proposing there, or getting engaged at home and then going on the getaway shortly after to celebrate together?

Good luck whatever you choose to do, I’m sure it will be perfect for both of you 🙂 

Post # 3
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - Beverly Hills, CA

Depending on your city, I’m sure you could find a really cute Airbnb that will feel more special and intimate than a hotel, especially for the price.

Post # 4
2665 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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drjlm :  You know your girlfriend, and you know she is chill. You also are trying to be responsible with money, and it sounds like that’s something your girlfriend would be on board with. Don’t let her roommate sway you into something that doesn’t fit you as a couple and would be a waste of money. 

I would go for a picnic or another romantic, but inexpensive, proposal, and then have a night in a hotel or bed and breakfast to celebrate. It doesn’t need to be fancy, because your girlfriend will just be so happy that you proposed!

Post # 5
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

you do not need a hotel at all

Post # 6
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2020 - City, State

I seriously do not understand the hotel thing. If you’re staying in town, you don’t need one. Like pp said, a picnic or a nice restaurant is plenty romantic. If you’d both like a getaway, book a getaway with standard accommodations, it doesn’t have to be anything five star, especially if that’s not her/your style anyway.

Post # 9
2998 posts
Sugar bee

Honestly, I don’t think very many people have ridiculously fancy/elaborate/expensive proposals. It just seems like they do — people will internet-brag about proposals involving 5 Star hotels and flash mobs.  

We rarely internet brag about proposals that happened involving breakfast at bed or taking your puppy for a walk to a pretty spot or while making french toast together or during a quiet movie night at home while eating a picnic dinner.  

I can understand wanting to do something special and perhaps something you’ve never done together before.  How about, instead of spending $$$$ to stay at a 5 star hotel, get dressed up and go have a glass of wine or a fancy cocktail in a ritzy bar?  Or go somewhere special just for desert and see if you can have the waiter bring the ring box out on a desert plate?  It would still have some cost associated with it, but certainly cheaper than renting a hotel room!

Ooo… if you have the budget to go to a ritzy bar for cocktails (maybe tell your Girlfriend you got a groupon or a gift voucher that a coworker couldn’t use?), you could set it up with the bartender ahead of time so that if you order champagne cocktails, s/he asks if you’re celebrating anything.. and you pull the ring box out and say “I hope so….”  ?  

Post # 10
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

You definitely don’t need to do something super fancy. If you’re staying in your own city, why not skip the hotel and use that money towards dinner?

Post # 12
5237 posts
Bee Keeper

Your advisor is a bonehead. You absolutely do not have to spring for something that’s not in your budget. My husband proposed to me at a little nothing hotel outside a ski resort. Like you, we were in our 20s and I didn’t expect to have the red carpet rolled out. Do what is comfortable in your budget. Frankly, a man who is sensible about money is more appealing than one who blows through money splurging on extras.

You won’t be in your 20s forever and some day you’ll have a lot more money at your disposal. People seem to forget the concept of deferred gratification these days. Everything has to be a “dream” – dream proposal, dream ring, dream wedding, dress, honeymoon etc. It’s completely unrealistic and in some cases downright foolish. If she’s worth marrying she won’t care where you pop the question.

(But don’t be like the guy who tied the ring to his penis with toilet paper and proposed…that’s a bridge too far lol)

Post # 13
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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drjlm :  Are you able to sleepover at one of your places after the dinner? We got engaged in the restaurant we had our first date in, and FH reserved the top floor (their private room) so it did not feel public. It was far more special to me than going somewhere super fancy and spending out of our budget.

Post # 14
10502 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL


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drjlm :  1) Don’t listen to your advisor for advice like this. You know your girlfriend and relationship more than he does. 2) Are there any spots that are of greater significance to your relationship than a random restaurant and/or hotel? Where did you go on your first date? Where did you say “I love you?” Can you recapture those moments in a proposal? To me that is more meaningful than any 5 star hotel. 

Post # 15
4173 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

I think your idea is fantastic! It would be super special to have the restaurant open late for you. Although, if your Girlfriend doesn’t love to be the center of attention, that may make her uneasy. I have a friend who had reservations at a lovely restaurant and just before they went for dinner, her and her now-husband went for a walk down the river beside the restaurant. He proposed on the walk so it was private and then they got to celebrate at the restaurant and got fussed over. It was a good combo of privacy and celebratory. I don’t think you need a hotel or AirBNB  but if you want to, that’s lovely too! Since you don’t live together, you could always arrange for her to spend the night at your place and have everything nice & tidy maybe some candles, rose petals and champagne in the fridge? There’s a lot of really nice simple ways to make the evening really special without breaking the budget. 

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