(Closed) Some men are disgusting.

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Unless the conversation is about me, I stay out of it.

Post # 4
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

ugh, you would hope people would realize that the workplace is NOT a place for those conversations.  I think you have three options:  1) Confront the person and kindly tell them that their conversations are distracting, 2) tell a supervisor that you are bothered by the inappropriate behavior or 3) try to ignore it.

It always surprises me that people don’t realize when they are being totally inappropriate at work.  I  mean, come on. 

Post # 5
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

If you’re okay with confronting them, do so. If not, report them. If you confront them and they try to defend their inappropriate comments and claim they’re not doing anything wrong, report them.

Nobody should have to put up with being made uncomfortable in their workplace.

Post # 6
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree, pigs!

I hope you work in an environment where there is a supervisor you can talk to about this, or HR?

don’t just ignore this, it won’t improve.

Post # 7
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I usually confront them. I try to do it one on one and keep a serious face. I keep it short and sweet and explain that I don’t find what they said funny (or whatever they thought it was). If it keeps up, go to HR. Also, I keep track of any convo w the person

Post # 8
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@LizLemon: If you want to keep your job stay out of it. My company executives were VERY inappropiate and I began questioning the illegal behavior. I was fired from my job and I have a discrimination lawsuit pending; when I was fired I was ranked in the top 25% of the company.

Post # 10
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@LizLemon:  i work in a place similar to that – its really laid back. Our HR/Accounting lady was fired 3 years ago and they never replaced her so our COO started taking care of HR issues which is def a conflict of interest since he tends to be the one people would go to HR about.

Post # 11
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t work, but I used to hear really gross guy conversations at school. Me and a male friend were teacher’s assistants for a teacher senior year and a couple times a week one of his friends would come by and talk to him. I swear, it’s like I turned invisible as soon as he came in. They would start talking about gross sex stuff right in front of me. One time they were talking about some sisters that the one guy hooked up with or something. And they talked loud like I wasn’t even there. I just learned wayyy more about those two than I ever wanted to know.

Post # 12
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow, now i know that I work in a REALLY liberal office because my first thought when I read your post is “at least he’s talking about his wife and not his mistress”…..

Post # 13
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@CanAmBride: Haha, I did as well. 

@LizLemon: Depending on the seniority of the people discussing and our working relationship (plus the topic of discussion), I generally give a loud enough ‘eh hem’ cough. Saves the awkward discussion about the inappropriate behavior, they stop discussing, and things move on. Still, it totally depends on the people and the context.

Post # 14
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

are they saying this in front of you or are you over hearing a conversation? Some people (those guys) might not find that conversation foul-but you may want to pipe up and just be like hey i can hear you. If they are talking about it in front of you i would walk away. They might get the picture then.

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