Post # 1
This guy at work always insists on coming into my office and saying ‘oh you have your wig on today’! what he means is when my hair is freshly washed my fringe/bangs look super straight like my hair isnt real-he doesnt understand how i get my hair so straight. but seriously, enough with the wig comments im going to get a complex!
Why are some men so untactful!
I need to think of something to say back to him
i dont think my hair looks like a wig lol. (although i have got a hairpiece around my bun today)
Post # 3
“Enough with the wig comments, I don’t mention your bald spot”
Even though he doesn’t have one, he’ll probably get the point and not say it again… hopefully!
Post # 4
At my Saturday morning running club, one guy ALWAYS asks me if I’m hungover. I finally snapped this past Saturday because I had actually gone to bed early the night before and gotten plenty of sleep. I guess he never realized that “you look hungover” is a euphemism for “you look like shit” and that hearing that every single week might actually offend me.
So yes, men can be stupid!
Post # 5
@ChocolateLime: OMG that is so rude. What an ass!
@iarebridezilla: Wow, that is so insulting! You said you snapped–what did you say to him?
Ever since I was 12 years old, strangers (always MEN) in the street have been telling me to smile. I ignore them completely. Excuse me, this is New York. We mind our own business here.
I also have a guy at work who twice said to me, “You look stressed out.” I don’t get the benefit of saying this to someone. Is he going to help me relax? The second time it happened, I said, “I’m working. You should do the same.” I’ve never had any comment from him again.
Post # 6
@mimi123: Heh, I just informed him in an ice-cold tone that “you do realize that by asking if I’m hungover, you’re basically telling me I look like shit, and that actually makes me pretty mad? How about from now on, if I’m hungover, I’ll tell you.”
I also get the people saying “smile” when I’m downtown in DC. Oddly enough, IT NEVER MAKES ME SMILE.
Post # 7
@mimi123: Ugh, the smile thing! I hate that! It’s always so weirdly aggressive too, like strange men jumping out at you and shouting, “Smile! SMILE!!” I had a guy hop a cafe fence to chase me down the street and demand that I smile, and somehow that didn’t make me explode into rainbows of cheeriness.
Post # 8
@ByLandAndBySea: I agree that it is aggressive. It’s like they want you to smile for their pleasure. Which makes me utterly disinclined to smile.
I would give them the finger but when I was little my father gave me this advice for dealing with unwanted attention on the street or elsewhere. “Don’t engage or you will get in trouble. Move on.”
Post # 9
ugh, I had a guy coworker tell me yesterday that I looked sad. I mean, I was sad, and I was hella tired, but if you must comment on my haggard appearance, at least say “you look tired.” Which is also code for your look like shit, but at least you try to disguise it.
men are impossible!