(Closed) Some people have a lot of nerve…

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hahaha! Even better – 4) RSVP yes, then email her and tell her you can’t make it but your Fiance would like to bring his sister, is that ok?

Although sadly, that would probably go right over her head and she’d just badmouth you for being THE RUDEST WEDDING GUEST EVER.

Post # 34
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@stellablue5997 – what was her excuse? Did she ever tell you why? Are you still friends with her?

@7sevenj9 – Her excuse at the end was that she was so miserable in her own life that there was no way she could be happy for me.  Um…I’m your best friend for over 10 years and you can’t be happy for me?  Wow.  She had already ordered her dress, so I told her she could be Maid/Matron of Honor, a Bridesmaid or Best Man, or a guest.  She told me she wouldn’t come at all.  I still sent her an invite, but after she told me she wasn’t coming, I told her if she didn’t want to be happy for me on one of the biggest days of my life, then she doesn’t seem to really want to be a part of my life.  I haven’t heard from her since.  It’s been about a month.   

@madcat – I love your idea for #4.  That’s totally something I would want to do. 

Sometimes writing out your feelings helps a lot.  I wrote everything bad I ever thought about my former Maid/Matron of Honor down and just got it all out.  I felt much better after that.  I didn’t send it to her or do anything with it, just used it as my own therapy. 

It sounds like you made the right decision by not including her at all.  If she is flaking out just on being a guest, imagine what she would have been like had she been Maid/Matron of Honor.  Unfortunately, most of us lose at least one friend over a wedding.  It’s just part of life, girls can be jealous, manipulative, and mean.  Your real friends are the ones that are there with you and happy for you. 


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