(Closed) Some People Have No Tact!

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
64 posts
Worker bee

Wow.  That’s awful.  I’m 30 and my Fiance is 29, and we’re planning on waiting about two years to have a baby, too.  So you’re NOT alone!  But how ignorant for people to suggest that you’re old and will need to hurry!  It’s really no one else’s business when you’re going to start your family.  And I’m glad I’m getting married at the age I am; I feel like I’ve been independent and had my own time to live my life before starting down a new path with a partner; that was important to me.  Not to mention the fact that this way it’s the RIGHT partner; if I’d married who I was dating when I was younger…  YIKES!

Post # 4
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is horrible!  Now that I’m getting to the age where people start having kids, I really think it is rude for people to say anything about someone’s babymaking.  The couple might not be able to have children at all and you could be rubbing salt in the wound.  And 30s is not old to have a baby.  My parents were in their 30s when they had me.

Post # 5
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m 28 and my Fiance is 30. He’ll be 31 by the time we get married and I’ll turn 29 shortly after the wedding. We also decided not to have kids for at least 2 years into our marriage. So you’re not the only one.  I know lots of people who got married in their late 20s and started having kids in their 30s.  They’re fine. Don’t be upset about what others say. They’re not the ones having/raising kids for you.

Post # 5
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh, I hear this all the time.  Not necessarily directed at me, but it comes up in convo’s with my friends and co-workers (most of which are older than I am).  I don’t understand why people feel this way, let alone feel a need to express it to you.  You have time.  Its not like you should force it because other people think you should have children immediately. 

Post # 7
3252 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can’t believe that ppl would say that. How rude.

I’ll be 30 when we get married as well. We already have a son who will be 3 next month.

You know what’s fueling the whole baby thing…all these studies that are out about how it’s harder for women to conceive children the older they get. Which is probably true but that doesn’t mean it can’t happen because it does all the time.

Ppl need to mind their own business. That’s yours and your husbands decision.


Post # 8
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow your not old at all, people need to mind their own business!! Sorry they said that to you! Dont take it personally, so not worth you stressing over!

Post # 9
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I will be almost 29 when I get married.  I would like to have children soon but there is no way that I would ever tell anyone else to.  For every couple it is different…. SO if you want to wait then wait. 

I HATE it when people tell me oh wait… you will want to travel… I look at them and say seriously… was the 3 times I went to Europe last year not enough… seriously! ( I travel A LOT with work… leaving for Jordan on Saturday)

In the end people need to stop being so nosy…GAH!!!

Post # 10
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Dude, I’m 32 and we have ZERO plans to have kids in the next year. I want to have AT LEAST a one year anniv before I even think about getting off the pill. My mom had me when she was 43, and OK I don’t want to wait that long** but people need to back off with that stuff.

(** – not an offense to women who do have kids when they’re older, but being the child of older parents, I don’t want that for my kids)

Post # 12
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My mom had me at 30, my bro at 32, my OTHER bro at 38 and my little sis at 41.

Ever notice how people will try to make young brides feel bad about getting married too young and older brides about getting married too old and brides in the middle bad about not immediately having babies? So just ignore those crazy people. 🙂

Post # 13
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

oh my gosh @Prncss that is nuts someone would say that to you! i’ll be 28 ( 3 weeks shy of 29! ) when we get married and we don’t even know if we want kids or not! scheesh! some people Yell

Post # 14
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am 35 and my fiance is 37 and I am getting married for the first time on 10-10-10. And yes, we plan to have kids. We have enjoyed our 4+ year relationship and the freedom that came with it — traveling, having dinner and drinks in the city with no worries, you name it. I know when I have kids, I can look back and have no regrets about “living my life” before I settled down.

The great things about waiting are you have more money, more wisdom and more patience!

@Camrie – HOLLA. I couldn’t have said it better myself. People just need to keep their mouths shut. Having children is a very personal thing, and no one’s business but yours.

Post # 15
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am 35 and Fiance is 28. We will be having kids but luckily no one has hit me with the “wow you’re old to start having kids” comment although i am sure they think it. Everyone marches to a different drum and like Alligatress we had a good time got to know each (we dated for almost 5 years) other, and traveled.


Some people just need to zip it

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