- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
ok so I had an experience over the weekend while out with the BF and it really just had me shocked as to the nerve of some people. I can’t tell if this person was just really clueless or just plain rude and disrespectful or all of the above.
lets call this dude “R”. he’s a casual acquaintance of mine and my close girlfriends. A neighborhood guy that we know simply because everyone knows everyone where we live. there was a stool on one side of my bf and one on my side and people in every other stool of the bar we were at. So R asks “oh is there room over there?”. I said yes because there was an open stool so being polite I answered his question accurately. about 5 min after he sat down I feel his knee up against mine and then he starts nudging me with his leg. I kept moving everytime he did kind of like a hint hint back the f off. finally i whisper to the BF “omg this guy keeps nudging my leg” . Before the BF could say anything my friend (we’ll call her A) walks in. A works at a restaurant and had brought in a tray of chicken for everyone. so me, the BF, and A all take seats at the table that the tray is on. People came up and made plates and whatnot and R decidese to take the seat next to A, which was across from me and the BF. It was a four seat table btw. So as we are all talking I see A repeatedly taking R’s hand and moving it off of her leg. over and over and over again til finally she just snaps and says to him ” ok I owe you a drink yes? lets get that over with so you can leave”. when she got up to go and pay the bartender he reaches across the aisle and grabs her ass. I missed it and so did the BF as we were talking to each other but she turned around and in so many words yelled that if he touched her again in any way she would have him bleeding on the floor 🙂 I guess she had had enough and we were all going to leave and go somewhere else anyway so she got up said goodbye to us and left. R did not leave our table though. About 2 min after A left, and with the BF sitting literally arm to arm right next to me he says to me “so what are you doing after this?” and winks. Normally my BF is a very very calm and cool guy. I have NEVER seen him lose his S***. He lost it. I tried to dispell it a bit and just asked the guy like wtf do you have any kind of manners or boundaries? then without letting him answer (it was rhetorical) I said I dont even know why you are still sitting here… So like a 12 year old he starts going on about how he can sit where he wants but he will nmove since the table its for “retards” . At this point my BF jumps off his stool and they start going back and forth. it was all very stupid what this guy was saying but considering his actions throughout the night the BF really just wanted to punch him. the bartenderowner tell R he has to leave. Of course he doesnt and is trying to say it was BF’s fault that things got loud. It was obvious to everyone there that that was not the case (its a small place and we knew everyone in there so everyone was aware that in general we NEVER cause drama and this kid is totally known to be a pain the you know what) . We left anyway and as we were leaving heard the bartenderowner yelling at R not only for the thing she did to all three of us but because he caused him to lose customers. It was really just all ridiculous.
Do people like R just really not realize how inappropriate and wrong thier actions are? or Do they just not care? It made me thankful to have such a good guy who is respectful and made me feel sorry for those in the single world who are looking for thier someone. I do not recall men being so bold (in such a disrespectful way) when I was single and still meeting new guys. Has anything like this ever happened to you? if so how did your BF handle it? or was it when you were single?