Post # 1
I need to vent today. Last night, I ran into this girl that I haven’t seen in a while, she’s an okay friend of mine I guess, I just haven’t really talked to her much lately because we’ve both been so busy. Well, we got to talking about my wedding and she asked me how wedding planning has been going, well here’s pretty much how the conversation went….
Her: “How’s the wedding planning going? Have you gotten a lot done so far?”
Me: “It’s going pretty good. We’ve gotten a good bit done so far. We’ve got our caterer/florist, our photographer and we know who’s doing our cakes. I’ve got my dress. But other then that, I’ve just basically been getting ideas of little things I can do along the way”
Her: “Gah, why have you done all that already? The wedding is SO far away! It only took me about 4 months to plan my wedding. What are you going to do when it gets closer to time and you have nothing left to do? I’d slow it down if I were you!”
First of all, my wedding is January 8, 2011. The 2011 sounds like far away, but my wedding is in less than 11 months! That’s not that far away. Secondly, when I booked my caterer, they already had people booked for February of 2011. So apparently, I’m not the only one. As far as the photographer & cake go, my cousin is doing our pictures and my aunt baking our cake, so that wasn’t hard.
Am I crazy for doing all of this “so soon?” It really bums me out because I was finally getting excited feeling like it was close enough to actually start planning this wedding and here she comes shooting me down like I’m nuts for getting started. It really hurt my feelings.
Sorry for the long vent girls, I just wanted to know that I’m not crazy for planning so “early” lol.
Post # 3
You’re not crazy. Very often brides get the opposite (“What? You haven’t booked that yet? Better get on it!”) This is actually the first time I’ve heard someone venting about getting too much done rather than not enough. Regardless, unless you’re planning extremely late or extremely early, like 2 weeks before or 2 years before, there’s nothing wrong with either. It doesn’t sound like you’ve done too much, so don’t worry. It’s really no one else’s business when you book what, so feel free to ignore this kind of “advice”.
Post # 4
I have a lot of stuff done and more stuff left to do, but I am like you, I want to get it done. My wedding is in March of 2011 and I keep getting asked that question and told the same things you are. Just try not to let it bother you. I just tell people that I want to get it all done, so I can just relax in the few months before the wedding. I am planning to have everything done 6 months before the wedding. You are not crazy for wanting to plan early. Now is when to plan to get the good prices and the good vendors.
Post # 5
I dont think you’re early at all. Sometimes u have to book early to ensure you get the person you want.
My wedding is in Sept and I pretty much got all the major stuff booked and ordered. 2 weeks after my Fiance propose I already booked my venue. Most of my time spent now is the tedious DIY projects (invitations, favors, table numbers, etc..) that is taking so much time but i can still take my time and not stress over last minute on them. I think its good to be on the ball.
Post # 6
My wedding is a week before yours and I know people who are getting married before me and have been engaged for longer than us act surprised at what we have already done. I take it that they have been moving slow instead of me moving fast. Besides everyone’s lifestyle is different and I know that right before my wedding I have finals so those last minute details need to be cleared up by the end of Nov. so that I can focus.
Post # 7
Thanks for all the comments. I’m glad it’s not just me. I know she’s entitled to her opinion and everything, but she just came across kind of harsh the way she said it to me IMO. I’m just trying to get as much done now as I can so when it gets closer to time, I can relax and not be so stressed out.
Post # 8
Not crazy! While I did get my wedding planned in 5 months, I totally wish I had longer! So I think you are pretty on top of things, and who cares if a few months before the wedding you have nothing wedding related to do! I promise you, that will make your life sooo much easier!
Post # 9
Wow! I have to say, I’ve gotten both brides who brag “oh, I did it all in 3 months, easy!” and ones who are like “you’re 7 months from your wedding date and you STILL don’t have X?” I agree with trugem, it’s a lifestyle thing and depends on your time availability, wedding size, etc. But honestly, I can’t see anything wrong with planning even 2 years in advance! Why not take your time, if you have it? Who wants to be rushed at the end if they don’t have to be?
Post # 10
Sounds like she might have just been out to ‘start something’ – always better to be ahead of the game when it comes to the big stuff! There’s always more to do when you get closer, and it’s nice because you’ll be able to take it easy, even take a break from wedding planning stuff before the big day!! =)
Post # 11
You are not crazy and it’s not too early. Before you know it, it’s been 10 months and you’re scrambling to get everything done. Don’t follow my example. I’m 2 months away and I am going crazy! LOL!
Post # 12
I feel you on this, with a 1 1/2 year engagement, I did all of my major bookings EARLY and got the exact same thing….and I have two comments questions for those people:
1) Why would I WANT to be totally busy in the month or two before my wedding? For me, the two months before my wedding are the BUSIEST of the year (I teach, so it’s the end of the semester and I coach track — which means meets and/or practice almost every night of the week!).
2) Honestly — you can book vendors as early as you want, but you still have to meet with them to finalize details 1-2 months before your wedding!!! (I actually tried to meet with mine early and they won’t!)
You, my friend, are not crazy! Keep doing what you are doing so you can ENJOY being engaged and not have the stress of having to do it all in a short amount of time stress you out!
Post # 13
Thanks bees. The part that bothers me the most is her saying “it’s SO far away” when 10 1/2 months isn’t that far away in the first place. From what everyone has told me, it flies by!
Post # 14
You are by no means crazy! Its not good to procrastinate and finish at the last minute. Don’t let people with jealousy issues thwart your progress!
Post # 15
She’s the crazy one for waiting so long, I couldn’t do it.. My date is 10-1-11 and we’re already getting started, and every single vendor said that because of the date, it’s a good idea. If you know what you want to take the chance of not getting it because you waited til the last minute like she suggested.
Post # 16
How about you have the opportunity to not be crazy by your wedding date and have some time to breathe? This girl sounds like she was just being petty and trying to one up you. But guess what you won’t be all stressed and crazy by the time your wedding rolls around. I think you’ve got a good thing going.