(Closed) some ppl are so annoying!!!!! (TTC Rant)

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry:( I’m also on my 10th month ttc (CD42) and I finally made an apt. with my dr. for next week to see if there are any issues. I know how hard it is to not be able to tell anyone or talk to anyone about the struggels and heartbreak that goes along with this journey. Only one other friend knows that we’re ttc and that has helped minimize comments. You’re doing the best thing by blocking it out! I hope you get your baby soon:) Oh, congrats on paying off your car soon! That’s a huge deal!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

One of my friends on Facebook has been married for just over a year and I swear every time she posts something like “I love my life!” or “today is a great day!!” someone has to comment: “are you pregnant?!?!” So rude. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MrsJVP:GRR>  Honestly, I would set the record straight, instead of just deleting it. People are extremely annoying.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea that is annoying. I would delete the comments as well and ignore them!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@rachiecakes:ughh. Didn’t you know? You can only be happy if you’re pregnant! lol

@MrsJVP: I hate it when ppl say to wait it out. It’s so hard living every day not knowing if there’s a problem or if you’ll ever get pregnant:( I hope the Dr. will see you soon!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can understand your annoyance but at the same time I think anything posted publically on FB is fodder for comments, especially something that could easily be misinterpreted by well-meaning friends and family.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It is annoying!  We’re not quite TTC yet, but ever since we got married, I’m trying to avoid making any vague statements like “things are going to change” and the like.  Still, people blatantly ask us all the time. “When are you guys having babies? It’s getting time, you’re pretty old! And you can’t have just one child!”  And mind you, this is not from close friends and family, but from random aquaintances.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

It is very annoying when people make assumptions (though I must admit, if I was a friend of yours, I would probably wonder if you were pregnant if your husband made a facebook post like that – however I would NEVER make a comment about it!!).

I know you guys have been trying for a while…and it can get so overwhelming having to deal with comments from people who make the assumption that you aren’t even trying yet.   I’m just curious – and maybe this is too personal – but is there a reason why you haven’t told your close family?  If they know you are actively trying and have been for a while, do you think they might be a bit more sensitive to the situation? 

I guess there’s always the concern that they will then be asking you outright every month “are you pregnant?”  but if you explain that you have been trying and it’s a very sensitive topic, and you would only like to talk about it if YOU bring it up – would they leave well enough alone?  If so, it might help to relieve some of the stress you are experiencing?  Just a thought….which I’m sure you’ve probably mulled over anyways ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I hate that!!! i normally don’t even post statuses on facebook anymore because of that. People know we don’t want kids and are preventing it, but anytime I put something about being sick or just being happy, or changes like your husband wrote, then at least one person comments about it!! So, I just stop putting it out there. I really wish there was a way to post something, but block comments

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I know the feeling. My husband and I started dating at a young age, so we were together for a LONG TIME before we got married. So we got the “when are you getting married” questions ALL THE TIME. We got married about 2 years ago, and the “baby” questions started the day after our wedding. And they haven’t stopped. No joke!!!!

For a while, my husband wasn’t ready to start trying, and I was, so it was really hard to listen to all of their comments.

THEN, we started trying, I got pregnant and miscarried. It was awful, because no one knew and all of the comments continued. The worst was when people would say “I thought you’d be pregnant by now.” Right after I miscarried, someone said “I would have bet money that you were 8-10 weeks pregnant.” In reality, if I had still been pregnant, I would have been about 12 weeks, so that comment was REALLY HARD.

The one thing I’ve learned from this is to refrain from asking others when they are going to have kids. Until you live it, you never realize that people might be trying for kids for a while or having problems. It’s such a simple question to ask, but there’s so much you don’t know about other people’s struggles! It’s VERY tough and annoying!!!!!!!!!!

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