Post # 1
I posted a few weeks ago about how I plan on NOT charting, but just finished TCOYF and utterly confused myself. I got off the pill 3 weeks ago and just waiting for AF (which I feel is starting!). We plan on trying starting my next cycle and I am getting nervous. I am 34, he’s 39 so we don’t want to wait too long to get this show on the road! My questions are..
1) If I do start to temp, when do I start? Believe it’s the 1<sup>st</sup> day of AF, but there was just so much info in that book I am in circles!
2) If we don’t temp, is BD every other day a good option? Obviously will need to take advantage of EVCM days I know (or atleast..I think I know..)
3) Everyone seems to recommend Fertily Friend. Does this app take your info and make a chart? Honestly, I deal with enough charts at work, I hate to add another 😉
Still not convinced I want to chart…but would like to get a grasp on the concept. Or other methods that work just as well
Post # 2
I started temping the day AF was done (sometimes the hormone fluctuations during AF can make things wacky and I temped vaginally so that was a no-go lol). You could Bd every other day, that would provide good coverage. I chose to BD when I had fertile CM so I would check daily and if I saw ewcm or watery then we would Bd. I highly recommend charting Especially if you want to try to get pregnant quickly. It’s really not a hassle to take your temp everyday and check your CM and it shows so much about your body. i charted for 5 months after I got my mirena removed and we were TTA. We got pregnant the first cycle we TTC. Good luck!
Post # 3
Oh and I do recommend fertility friend – it takes all the info and tells you when you’re most likely to ovulate and shows when you did based on temps etc
Post # 4
Personally, I chose to not chart and just have sex every other day. If you’re having sex every other day, it doesn’t really matter when you ovulate. If it took more than six months I would have charted to confirm that I was ovulating, but I got pregnant on the third cycle, so I never had to.
Post # 5
1. I’d start temping now just to get into the habit, if you’re planning on charting your next cycle. Your chart will begin on Cycle Day (CD) 1. But it doesn’t hurt to get into the groove of waking up and recording your temp for a few days before CD1.
2. Yep! You’re guaranteed to hit at least one day in your fertile window if you have sex every other day. Your most fertile days are the day before and two days before ovulation.
3. Yep! You enter your temp, the time you took it and it will create a chart for you and tell you when you ovulated. If you have regular cycles, after a few months it will do a good job of predicting your fertile window.
Post # 6
We just proceeded as normal and I got pregnant immediately. It was a little shocking after all the charting/temping/symptom checking that the internet made me think was necessary. I’m almost 36. Husband is 38. Our plan was to just see what happened for 3 months or so and then I would have probably started checking ovulation predictor tests. After 6 months we would have checked in with my doc. With the initial shock of a positive pregnancy test about 8 days after I assume ovulated based on my regular cycle, part of me almost wished it had taken a month or two.
I think it helped that my OB was super low key. He made me promise to start prenatals that day. He explained that even though some women panic about not getting pregnant immediately after stopping contraception, it can naturally take time. . .he explained it as the “fecundity rate”. He also wasn’t super alarmed about my age. He said every other day intercourse was sufficient, but we could knock ourselves out an have it as frequently as we wanted.
I know we’re on the spectrum of incredibly blessed and very lucky, but I rarely hear stories in message boards from 30-somethings who get pregnant so quickly. I was very anxious and convinced I was going to have a time of it.
Post # 7
I started temping a few months before we started TTC. I liked it because it allowed me to take more control of the whole process, rather than just going at it and hoping for the best. Another advantage to temping is that you will hopefully foresee any problems, rather than going at it for six or more months, then going through possible testing. After charting for a year I had planned on going at it next cycle if we hadn’t gotten our BFP, just to try the other route too.
1) you can start whenever, but CD1 is always a good time to commit. When I started it took me a few months to get a hang of it and I didn’t get much useful data until I got better at it, so it didn’t really matter when I started.
2) like other’s said, as long as you are ovulating, you should hit your window if you just BD EOD.
3) FF puts everything in a nice, easily readable chart for you.
Post # 8
I charted for 9 months prior to TTC as if come off BCPs and wanted to chart to abstain until we decided to TTC and was curious what my cycles were like. When I had started BC at 17, I really hasn’t paid attention to my cycle length. To answer your Qs (IF you choose to chart):
1. You begin temping (same time every morning) on the first day of AF (full red flow).
2. BDing every other day is a good option, but can be exhausting if it takes longer to conceive. OPKs are a great option of you choose not to chart! You’ll test your urine beginning a few days before you would normally ovulate and wait until it is positive. That signals a LH surge and means ovulation within 12-48 hours typically. This can narrow down your BD days to hit your FW. *The best days to conceive are two days and one day before O and the day of O.
3. FF is a great app! Easy to use and nice to have everything charted to see your patterns!
I stopped charting (temping, CM, and CP) when we began TTC at the end of January to take pressure off and just used OPKs to hit those three main days. Conceived first baby cycle 2, but miscarried at 6.5 weeks. We were lucky and, using OPKs again, conceived this baby (just over 18 weeks now) the cycle after my CP. Good luck!
Post # 9
congrats on your sticky baby 🙂
I never thought getting pg would be so confusing- ha! I was pretty dead set on just letting nature take it’s course until I read tcoyf. Well see what happens in the next few months here. I already asked DH if he is up to the challenge of bd every other day starting next month. We only have sex like once a week now (I’m not a sexual person and he’s just lazy) and he claims he is. I give it a month before we are exhausted and I’m back on here asking the lovely bees to read my chart 😉
Post # 10
Thank you! If you don’t want that kind of pressure, I would just use OPKs or go a few cycles without anything to help you ease into it. Don’t put that pressure on yourself unless you think it will help you relax knowing more information.
Oh! If you choose to temp-don’t read into every little up and down after ovulation. In fact, there are many charters who elect not to temp after confirming ovulation because it just gets to be too much.
Post # 11
Sorry to hijack your thread!
This gives me hope! I’ve been on the pill since I was 21, and I’m now 34. DH and I are hoping to start TTC after my current pill pack runs out (next month), so I am happy to hear that you had good results right away with your age (DH is 36) after being on contraception. As always, everyone is different. I don’t plan on charting until after 3 months of negative tests, and then will speak to my doctor after 6 months (which would be around when I would go in for my yearly). I want to see what happens naturally at first, and then go from there. My SIL gave me her fertility books, which I plan on starting to browse over now since the next month will probably fly by.
I’ve been keeping tabs on my period for years with a tracker app, and the estimated starte date is usually right on.
Post # 12
sorry I’m totally hijacking your hijack now, but I wanted to make sure that you knew that even though your cycles are regular and your tracker app is able to predict your period start date, that doesn’t necessarily mean that will work after you go off the pill. The pill is regulating your cycle now, but there’s no way to know what it will do after you go off the pill. It could stay completely regular at 28 days per cycle, or it could go completely irregular.
Post # 13
Ha, no worries. I am sure about that too but appreciate the information! 🙂 Even with being on the pill for so long, it’s fluctuated some so I got switched to something else and it’s been better. In the last 4 years, it’s been anywhere between 24-33 days. I guess we’ll just have to do it more when the time comes!
Post # 14
Thanks for sharing! I’m 36 and DH is 39. Both my brother and his wife and his brother and his wife have had trouble conceiving, so I’ve geared myself up for this to take a while/be difficult, but you’ve given me hope! 🙂 This is our first cycle trying, so we’ll see!
Post # 15
I’m 34 and DH is 40, so very similar in ages! We just started trying, this is cycle #2. I highly reccomend OPK if you don’t want to chart. Personally, I am charting and using OPK just because I wanted to learn more about everything and then I figured I could relax about it a bit later on. Also, maybe Too Much Information, but we knew pretty quickly that every other day was going to be too much for us. We average 2x per week. So that is why I’m trying to concentrate my efforts with timing 🙂
I’m so happy to hear a story of how a couple in their late thirties got pregnant so quickly! you give me hope 🙂
I’m 34 & DH is 40. I stopped BCP in May, and like you had been using a period tracking while on BCP. Just wanted to say, my cycle went from 28 days on BCP to 33 days in June and yet to be determined (currently CD 27) in July. My first cycle I was tracking O based on my period tracker and missed it by 8 days! So I just wanted to warn you that the trackers don’t estimate O well for everyone. That is why I started charting and using OPK.