Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I’m having trouble figuring out the seating arrangement. My main confusion is… Well where to sit everyone.
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1. Do the parents all sit at the same table? His and mine? Or do they sit at their own tables with their friends/family?
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Fiance parents are inviting 10 of their friends which all fit at a table perfectly. So I was considering putting his parents, my mom and uncle (uncle is walking me down the aisle) and his grandma and his grandmas friend since they are all helping so much at one table. But that’s only 6 out of 10. We cant include any more aunts or uncles because he’s got 4 uncles all married and I’ve got 2 aunts and another uncle all invited so we don’t want to show favortism. I would put my Grandma at the table with the parents but I know she will want to be with her other son and his family.
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Some tables seem to fit perfectly.
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2.We are supposed to sit with the wedding party right? Which makes it perfect fit.
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3.Do you put kids at a seperate table? If so do parents ever have an issue with this?
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4.Would it be OK to put strangers at the same table, like our friends and cousins who are all single and in their 20s at a 20 something table?
I want everyone to be comfortable but it’s proving to be hard with our guests, seems like his family and mine will be grouped together and friends with family etc.
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
For our wedding, we had my parents and grandparents and some other close family at one table, and another table where we did the same with his.
In terms of the wedding party, you have several options. You can sit with them if you like. Or you can do what a lot of brides are doing and have a sweetheart table. It’s what I did. We had a small table with just the two of us, and then immediately on my side was a table for the bridesmaids and their dates, and immediately to my husband’s side was a table for the groomsmen and their dates. It’s really up to what you’d like to do!
We didn’t have kids at our wedding, so I can’t speak from experience here. It really depends on how old the kids are and whose kids they are. You’re probably the only one who can answer what your guests are comfortable with.
I’ve been seated at a 20-something table before. I didn’t mind it too much.
Do you guys have your RSVPs back yet, or are you just going off of invites? Definitely make sure you know exactly who is coming before you try to start arranging — one change can lead to a ripple effect of several changes!
We used as much logic as we could doing our seating, but a couple of tables were a little random. It can’t be perfect. Just do the best you can! 🙂
Post # 4
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Newbee
Nothing is right or wrong. Most weddings have a sweetheart table for just you and your husband. That might be a good option if your hall provides it.
I am not going to sit my bridal party together just b/c not everyone knows eachother so I’d rather sit them with people they actually know.
I also don’t think your parents need to sit with his either. if there are other people they’d rather sit with like aunts or grandparents, then that is fine. My FI’s parents are divorced and remarried so he has 2 sets so sitting all the parents together would just be awkward.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
In the UK most have one long top table with the bride, groom, parents of both and Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. I idn’t want that and had a normal table like everyone else an sat with my Darling Husband, bridesmaids and ushers. There were no kids at my wedding so I can’t help with that, but I think it is perfectly fine to sit people with people they don’t know. It has happened at every wedding I have ever been too. Makes people mingle. Just make sure you don’t put you 20year old friends with your grandparents or something haha, neither party may be happy! haha. In summary, don’t worry about the politics or the norm, just sit people where you want them to be sat
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