Us gals get too tied up in what we see as our perspective… in reality an Engagement is a BIG DEAL for a guy… something most don’t take lightly.
AND as an Oldtimer, I’ve been around the block often enough to say the following…
A gal that pressures a guy into proposing is gonna regret it down the road. A man may propose in essence just to shut you up… (been there done that with my first marriage being an insecure girl right out of college).
BUT the truth is, if a guy isn’t 100% into it… in LOVE with you beyond words when he proposes to you / marries you… he isn’t gonna be anytime later down the road either
Which sets yourself up for a life filled with disappointment and heartache.
The sexiest thing on the planet ??
A MAN IN LOVE… who cannot wait to make the woman he loves his wife !!
Gals we need to understand this. No amount of hoping, praying, cajoling, or ultimatums is gonna make him love you.
IT HAS TO COME NATURALLY FROM HIS HEART
So back off. IF he’s the one… and gonna do it. He’ll do it in his own good time.
At the same time… it is important for gals to know when you are in an uphill battle… a guy who really LOVES you, WANTS TO MARRY YOU NOW !!
Lol, a great many Engaged women will tell you… that guys naively want it to happen really quick after they propose (2 to 6 months is a common projection)
Sweet, but not realistic if one is planning to have a BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding.
So Ladies, be the awesome creatures that you are… show your guy how cool you can be… and if he ain’t man enough to ask… then don’t be “sad enough” to beg… just move onto someone else who will enjoy every second of the AWESOME person you are.
As Greg Behrendt says in “He’s Just Not That Into You”…
DON’T WASTE THE PRETTY ON SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T DESERVE IT !!
(In that our youth & pretty years are quick to pass… there are many men out there who would appreciate you for WHO you are… as you are. Not that you’d have to change to be someone’s ideal).
Stuff to think about