(Closed) some words of encouragement needed

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Awe sweetie, good for you for waiting.  Dont worry, you will have a great time and you will love it.  Just let your body and love for eachother do the talking.  I hope you have a wonderful wedding and an awesome wedding night. 

Post # 4
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3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just relax and take it slow.  Everything will okay. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Take it slow, speak up about what you like, and don’t worry if you don’t do “it” all in one night. You have your whole marriage to become experts ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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233 posts
Helper bee

I agree with Eva.  You don’t have to do it all in one night.  Do what you feel comfortable with, and build on that.  Many couples I know who were having sex before marriage were so exhausted after their wedding that they just went to sleep without any big blissful wedding moment. 

๐Ÿ™‚ Take your time. Do what you feel comfortabel with.  And always always always communicate what you do not feel comfortable with.   

Post # 8
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119 posts
Blushing bee

Oh, yeah, go slow girl! As the other girls said go one step at the time, build your emotions to finally go all the way. I will hurt, that is a fact, but it will be wonderful ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 9
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675 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Go slow. This might sound obvious, but I say start with lots of lots of making out. That can distract you from your worries, relax you, and build up the anticipation which will help. And just be honest, it’s ok to admit you’re nervous! No one is expected to know exactly what they like in the beginning, that can take years, so just start out with what you know and go from there. 

Post # 10
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

31 years is a lot of willpower! However, I think it’s also a long time in which additional anxiety and perhaps unrealistic expectations can take hold. And, to put it bluntly, if you are hot for each other you will most certainly figure it out very quickly. Congrats and good luck. Yes, it IS worth all the fuss people make about it, LOL.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It will be fine because you love each other and you’ll be married! I guess my best advice is don’t get embarrassed or discouraged. If it’s your FI’s first time I’d highly suggest not using condoms. They’re a pain!

Post # 13
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Read 50 Shades of Gray.

Have a drink of wine.

Take some tylenol.

AND ENJOY.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ohmybears48:   Ahh don’t mix Tylenol and alcohol! Maybe another pain killer.

Post # 15
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@redheadem:  Good point. I think tip #1 should be: dont be comatose or dead.

So, change my advice to pain killer that wont interfere with alcohol and a glass of wine.

Also, feel free to change out 50 Shades of Gray with another similar reading material, movie, tv show, poster… etc. I prefer watching an episode of True Blood.

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