Post # 1
I’ve been in a total planning deadlock — completely unable to make any decisions — since we’ve been engaged (which was July 2011). Everything about planning a wedding has completely stressed me out or made me depressed, and I just don’t get how everyone is somehow able to just pull everything together, have it work out, and generally enjoy doing it. I’m apparently missing that chip.
The only thing that I’ve actually successfully completed is finding a dress, and that was an agonizing process. Fiance and I went to countless bridal stores and tried on dresses, and I got so discouraged because I hated them all and the salespeople are all obnoxious! Finally, Fiance found one hiding at one store that I ended up liking and buying.
I’ve waffled on planning an elopement, having been inspired by the many featured on http://www.intimateweddings.com, but the only thing that stops me is not wanting to miss out on the moments with my mom and dad (getting ready with mom, walking down the aisle with dad, dancing with dad, etc.). Therefore, I’m trying so hard to feel comfortable with an intimate 20ish person wedding of close friends and immediate family, but I just don’t get how it works!
Post # 3
Since all of the relevant questions and concerns I detailed in my original submission of this post were apparently not approved for some reason unbeknownst to me… I’m obviously not going to get ANY useful replies.
My questions about logisitics of dancing with a small group of people, whether or not to get a DJ, and potentially trying to head off concerns about family members that were laid out in an organize  and  and (a) and (b) format, were against some sort of posting rule.
Moderators, please remove this posting as you have submitted it since it omits my questions that I wanted answers for.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I’m not sure I completely understand your post… What types of questions do you have? No one here can do everything for you, but we might be able to help you along the way.
Post # 5
I’m a little confused as well….. In the end, your wedding is what you make of it. Find things that are important and try to incorporate it. For a wedding of 20 people, it might not make sense to do some of the things you would for a wedding of 200. For example, I personally probably wouldn’t do a DJ and dance floor since i think it could be a little awkward. 🙂 hope that helps! Good Luck!
Post # 6
Hi! I’m trying to set up a small wedding too…like 20 people. even though its small it can still get stressful. Consider yourself lucky that you have time yet. Just take everything piece by piece. And do what you’re comfortable with. Oh and congrats on finding a dress! I bet that’s exciting.
Were planning a small gathering at a local Irish pub that has a party room. Figure ceremony, meal, and dessert. Either iPod music or whatever they have playing. If people want to get up and dance so be it but no dj or dance floor. We’re not even getting really dressed up don’t even have a white dress. Not inviting extended family but will have some kinda reception/ BBQ with everyone in the spring/ summer so there’s no hard feelings.
We thought of elopement but I felt the same with parents and such.
dont worry too much you have time. Plus we’ve been engaged for 3 1/2 years so don’t worry about things taking too long. Just take everything one piece at a time and breath 😀