- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
I’m intrigued; there seem to be so many celebrations around the wedding in US, CAN, AUS, UK.
in Germany, we have the wedding. Period. 😉 there used to be (still common in some areas I believe) the polterabend, a celebration typically the might before (?) the wedding where the bride and groom throw crockery on the floor to smash it and then have to clean it by swiping it all with a brush. I think it’s for good luck to scare off all the ghosts. For some reason (other than fun??? ;)) guests will take the broken crockery and spread it all around again so the sweeping never stops haha. a lot of drinking is also involved.
We’re also doing bachelor/ette parties, but not as fancy as in the US (at least based on “hangover” ;)).
From on what I gather on the bee, there are: bridal showers, bachelor/ette parties, dollar dances (at least common in Canada), rehearsal dinner, wedding. So what is one to do at all these different parties?
Wedding is clear. Even though it seems to me that these seem to be quite short as compared to ours. Ceremonies here typically start aroun noon, some earlier, some later and then the reception will last until the wee morning hours. I have come across wedding after parties though, so I guess then they are comparable. (Who organizes tees after party’s if theyre at a different location? And why bother and not just stay at the actual location?)
Bridal shower I have no clue. If I understand posts right, you get gifts at the bridal shower AND at the wedding? In another post, someone saod a certain gift would have been better for the shower instead of the actual wedding.
Dollar dances I understand that people have to actually purchase admission tickets and buy the drinks and that money all goes to bride and groom. What else is there? Just a regular party like going clubbing but bride and groom benefit?
rehearsal dinner is a dinner typically hosted by groom’s parents for wedding party and out of town guests (or just wedding party?). people walk down the aisle, eat and toast. but the speeches there are held by other people than those giving speeches at the wedding.
Bachelor/ette here is drinking, stupid games (selling stuff, getting strangers to do fun stuff for you, having to do silly things yourself, etc) And stripper. Well that’s the typical one. Some will also do spa weekends and other stuff. Is it the same concept for you?
And then of course there’s the wedding party. I initially actually thought it was another party (as in celebration) haha.
Did I get it right? What did I miss? And how come there are so many events for the bride and gro get gifts / money lol. Here we only give gifts at the actual wedding. We don’t do registries, but often people will say they would like money in the invites (and that’s completely fine etiquette wise- people nearly always already live together and we don’t do wedding websites where you could elaborate otherwise).