(Closed) Someone asked me the unthinkable yesterday. Still SMH.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow. I wouldn’t have invited someone who openly has a Girlfriend anyway. I think you made the right decision there!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m with you.  He sounds like an ass.  I would definitely make sure his gets lost.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

so you are more upset that he asked about the open bar than the fact he was out with his Girlfriend and not his wife???

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh gosh. I would just tell him that unfortunately numbers aren’t going to allow for his invite, but if someone cancels, you’ll let him know – tight budget and all that. No way would I have someone like that at my wedding.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mrsjjohnson2b:  The question about the open bar doesn’t bother me. The fact that he is openly cheating on his wife (presuming that they are not in a consensually open relationship)? Gross.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@eloping:  Not trying to speak for OP here, but to me it seemed like shock over him acting like everything was peachy keen despite the elephant in the room…

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

AHHH YEAH…. lost in the mail is the nice way to put it if it was me i would have just told him what i was think….he sounds like a real winner….

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@eloping: Agreed!

I think its interesting how casually you talk about the guy having a girlfriend (and asked for his address in front of her) but are appalled that he asked if you were having an open bar.  Different priorities, I suppose!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Regina Phalange:  i guess im puzzled because OP’s thread title is “someone asked me the unthinkable” (is there a open bar), not my FI’s doosh friend has a wife and a Girlfriend and i want to invite his wife and him only

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@eloping:  Hmm, good point. I agree that the cavalier affair is the bigger deal here!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

@mrsjjohnson2b:  Maybe the couple have split up or have an open marriage? The fact that the OW knows this guys address makes me think that he and wife have split up and it isn’t public knowledge (since it is their business and no one elses).

Maybe he wanted to know about the open bar so he could make sure he had enough cash on hand if it wasn’t!

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