(Closed) Someone Help Before I Lose My Mind !!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry for the craziness he is putting you through.  From expierence I would call it off and live your life.  You don’t want someone who is not sure about your relationship.  It will make you miserable and you will break up in the end.  There is always a chance that you will get back together but you can’t put your life on hold waiting for someone to make a decision.

Post # 5
4546 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Marriage is for better or for worse and it doesn’t sound like he knows what he wants. Honestly, if I were you, I would move on. He sounds like he’s already partly checked out of the relationship. And you could be waiting for a long time….and that’s really not fair to you or to your marriage.

Post # 6
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@lostgirl84: My opinion would be to let him go and move on with your life. I think you hit the nail on the head saying that he should be able to do this WITH you. You’re young, there will be plenty of obstacles in your life and you will be much better off finding someone who will endure them with you, not runaway or cut you off. If he gets his life together later on down the road and your paths cross again, that would be great, but don’t wait for it.

Post # 7
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

At this point, he doesn’t deserve you. If he wants to turn his life around and be a better person for you, breaking up with you isn’t going to do that. There’s absolutely no reason why he can’t turn his life around while still being with you if he really wants to be with you. It sounds like he’s using those reasons as an excuse, and not a very good one.

Don’t wait for him to decide if he still wants to be with you. You deserve someone who can’t live without you and knows it.

Post # 8
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Is he the father of your son?

Post # 9
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m sorry you are going through this. He doesn’t get to keep you and your son waiting while he decides if you are in his future. If I was in your shoes, I would start moving forward. You have to do what’s best for you and your child, and confusion is never good. If he decides to come back to you later, the ball will be in your court. If you want him back, then you can try again. If you get tired of waiting, and move on in your life, then it’s his loss.

Sending you strength and loving thoughts. ((((HUGS))))

Post # 10
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Time to move on.

I think he is trying to soften the blow by making statements about coming back and picking up where you left off after he has “done better.”

30% doubt is a whole lotta doubt in my opinion. 

Post # 11
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Moose1209: Does it matter? If so, he can be a father without them being together.


@lostgirl84: I agree with the PP, I think you should move on. It does sound like he’s already checked out of the relationship. Not only is it unfair to you for him to ‘him and haw’ about leaving you, but to expect you to then wait around for him. You deserve better, and so does your son.

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