Post # 1
I really need help, and I’m pulling my hair out over this. One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man is approximately 6’1, and I want all my maids to wear the same heel for my wedding, but she is really being insecure about her height with the heels on, mainly because she doesn’t want to be a tree towering over everyone, which is understandable, but she won’t be. My problem is I purchased her dress and shoes because she wasn’t able to afford them, and when she tried them on before we ordered them in her size, she had no problems with them, even when the shoes came in she still said nothing. Well, now she wants me to find a smaller heel or she is out the wedding, but again I purchased her dress and shoes, not her. What can I do? Here is a picture of the shoe the maids have. Everyone already has there shoe and I don’t think I can even get them cut down without jepordizing the shoe. Please give me ideas.
Post # 3
My first thought is, if all your bm’s are wearing the same height of heel, they could be wearing ballerina flats and still have the same height difference.
I also wonder if there’s more going on than just the shoes, I don’t think any of my bm’s would deek out over this type of thing. And it totally sucks that you have helped so much in purchasing her dress and shoes. I think u just need to have a heart to heart and see if there’s more to it than the shoes. You could also compramise that during the ceremony/photos she wear the shoes you picked and then maybe do a change at the reception since nobody will be paying attention and she will be more comfortable!
Post # 4
A good shoemaker can shorten the heels but there is a limitation as to how much they can be shortened.
I would present this as an option to her but only after she first pays you for the dress and the heels.
Post # 5
Thanks for the comments, there is more to it than just the heels itself, she said that she has been feeling insecure about her height. Atleast this is what she told someone. I did present the option of getting the heel cut down, so hopefully they can cut it down.