(Closed) Someone help me please! MOH vs Bridesmaids

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hmmm. Could it be that she just feels like the other bm has more in common with her in terms of style? Or is wedding dress shopping just one example and she does this with everything?

Post # 5
1360 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Well, I wouldnt word it like that, but I do think you should bring it up. I would say, hey, lately I have felt left out of everything, as if my opinions don’t matter and like a runner up, just wondering if everything is ok? I’m sorry you’re going through this sweety.

Post # 6
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

She could also just be coddling this girl. Maybe she understands that you are stronger/don’t need to be lead as much. When dress shopping, give your opinion! Be outgoing in conversation! And if you still feel awkward, please talk to her! If you have been friends a long time, this is the best way to deal with it. She might just be thinking that you are being quiet, not that you are uncomfortable!

Post # 8
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wouldn’t bring it up.


I was in a bridal party where me and the bride and the Maid/Matron of Honor had previously been really close and even lived together.  The Maid/Matron of Honor and I had a MAJOR falling out about a year before the wedding… not like a disagreement, like I was living at her aunts and she literally pulled me out the door by my hair.


We both agreed that we should be cordial for all the wedding stuff and then would never have to see eachother again.  It worked out well, we even had a blast together at the bachelorette party.


The wedding was awkward mostly because the Maid/Matron of Honor hated that my SO was there and I was so happy with him.  Didn’t think I deserved to be happy after “what I did to her.”  But I don’t think the bride and groom ever noticed and they got to enjoy their day without any animosity known.


I say just keep quiet and be a good friend to the bride and offer your opinions when you can.  It’s stressful enough planning a wedding, hearing about you being hurt would probably bring her to tears.  Like PP said, she may just think this girl needs more attention that you or something and that you will always be there for her so she doesn’t worry as much about specifically asking you your opinion.

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