Post # 1
On Wednesday morning, someone I know broke into my home, threatened to kidnap my child, told me they were going to kill me, and then attempted to strangle me. Thankfully I survived, the assailant was arrested and my daughter is safe. I do have a sprained neck, a cut on my throat that refuses to clot and continues to bleed on and off as well as a sprained wrist which is killing me.
It’s been five days since my safe haven was invaded, my wrist was sprained and the nightmares began. I’d love to say I’m doing better but it’s getting harder everyday. My wrist hurts more every day and my nightmares are becoming more frequent and more intense. I’m taking sleeping meds and still only getting a few hours of sleep a night.
I’m afraid to be alone in my house (which we just bought so moving is not an option), I’m terrified to let my daughter out of my sight and it is incredibly hard to function on the tiny amount of sleep I’m actually getting-not to mention not having use one of my arms. The police have visited my daughter’s school and talked to her teachers, principal and counselors to make sure that she remains safe but that has done so little to reassure me.
I’ve spoken to a counselor but I still can’t breathe normally. I feel like my entire life was stolen from me.
I find night time is the worst. My daughter’s already in bed and i just feel so alone. Mr. A is doing the best he can but he really doesn’t understand what I am going through.
The person was arrested but found incompetent to stand trial so they are now on a twenty day hold at a psych hospital. I have to go back to court on October 3rd to beg the judge not to let this person out.
Does anyone know a support group I can join? Most I’ve found have been for survivors of domestic assault but it was not my fiance who assaulted me. My family expects me to just “realize this person is sick” and forget about what happened. My friends have been amazing and Mr. A is trying to be supportive but I think he is still in shock that this even happened.
Post # 3
Whoa. I would have counseling every day until I started feeling better. I don’t know what to suggest, do you have a security system set up? Have you thought about staying with some friends/family temporarily. Take some self defense classes?
You have my thoughts, I’m very sorry.
Post # 4
We do now have a security system. The previous owners had one installed but did not use it. We now have it monitored 24/7. Mr. A added a chain bolt and a new lock on our slider door.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry to hear this! To be attacked in the one place you should always feel safe would be a nightmare.
I don’t know any of support groups. I really just wanted to comment to show my support for you. Please stay in counseling though!! Maybe go more times a week! Hopefully your counselor will have resources in your area that she can give to you. Also, remember and try to take comfort in, that your attack was not a random attack. It was a sick person you knew and you know where they are. As long as they are in the psych ward, they can NOT hurt you. After Oct. 3rd, if he is released, this won’t help. But maybe it will help you in the meantime.
Sorry I’m not a bigger source for information. But I’m sending good thoughts your way. I’m so sorry this happened to you!
Post # 6
Go to your Dr…..they should be able to direct you to a support group.
Im so sorry to hear about this. I hope everything works out. You need to treat the emotional issues you are having…post tramatic stress possibly.
Good luck to you. Lean on hubby for support.
Post # 7
Oh man, that’s terrible to hear. Are you and Fiance living together? I would suggest not being alone for the time being, just for your mental well being. I would also suggest seeing a therapist – they would hopefully be able to find a support group for you as well.
As for your family’s advice, I don’t think an experience like this is one you can just forget… even if rationally you know it’s true. I’m sorry this happened to you.
Post # 8
@SoontobeMrsA: Wow that is so terrible!!! Im glad you wont have any lasting injuries. Personally, I would buy a tazer or a gun. I know you have a small child so you may not be comfortable having that in the house, but for the piece of mind, for me personally it would be worth it. Maybe go get a rottweiler puppy and train him as a guard dog?
Post # 9
Wow! How horrible of a thing to have to experience! I’m so sorry to hear this. Unfortunately I’m not much help because i don’t know of any support groups but I just wanted to show my support for you.
Post # 10
Oh my goodness! Prayers to you for peace and comfort!
I haven’t heard from you in a while. Is this related to that creep that made your facebook?
Post # 11
wow, your life is definately full of drama – be sure to seek professional help and i hope you can soon relax in your own home. im glad that no one was seriously (meaning it could have been much worse than your injuries) hurt
Post # 12
@Eva Peron: No it is unrelated to the facebook creep although I know question if my attacker put him up to creating the fake account.
Mr. A does live with me, thank God but was not home at the time. We do own a gun but due to Mass laws it needs to be in a locked safe and the bullets need to be in a seperate locked safe. I didn’t have time to go for it.
I should mention my daughter also has high-functioning autism so breaking her routine could severely set her back. Everything has just been so hard lately.
Post # 13
Call the police, they will have information on support groups for victims of violent attacks.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I agree with PPs, your counselor or doctor should have plenty of resources to offer you.
Post # 15
I just noticed your location – It wasn’t the same suspect that attacked a woman in Lowell was it? So scary!
Post # 16
@SoontobeMrsA: Oh my god, this is so horrible. I’d recommend seeing a therapist who specializes in PTSD, for starters. I really don’t have any advice beyond that, but I really hope that they don’t let this guy out. My thoughts are with you and your family. xoxo