(Closed) Someone invited themself to my wedding!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We all have someone who we don’t want to be there.  Frankly, if she does not get into your business I would just let her be there.  Ignore her.  But then again, I’m easily persuaded.

Post # 4
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Did you give the legitimately-invited friend a +1? If so, there’s not a whole lot you can do. If not, you can say more or less what you just said: “I’m so sorry, Lisa – there were a lot of people we wanted to invite, but the venue’s limitations are very strict and we can only accommodate Jenny. Her invitation was for just herself.”

Post # 6
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7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Did you give your friend an open +1? (If you did, that’s really unfortunate and a good lesson for anyone considering extending true +1s, but I wish you didn’t have to go through this.) If you did, you can’t then dictate who that +1 is. If you did not give your friend a +1, you will have to do the dirty work of telling this uninvited guest that she has not been invited and that you have not extending +1s to anyone else so she cannot come as your other friend’s date. It suck to have to do this, but your only other option is to have her come.

Post # 7
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7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@coolcourtney:  An invitation to her husband is NOT an invitation to whomever she wants. It’s not a ticket; it’s an invitation. Those are non-transferable.

Post # 9
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511 posts
Busy bee

@coolcourtney:  And this woman is obviously not your mutual friend’s husband right?  Get your friend (I think someone else referred to her as fictitious Jenny) to tell her that she RSVP’d that her former husband would not be joining her at your wedding.

Post # 10
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Omg what a wack job … who seriously does that ….. can you call her or something? 

Post # 11
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I try to be diplomatic in my posts…but this girl sounds like a total lunatic. I would tell your friend that you’re sorry, the invitation was for her and her husband, period.  If they are now separated, she should come by herself.  I know that seems (and may actually be) harsh toward your friend, but it may be the only way to ensure that the wackadoo doesn’t come to your wedding.  It also may require you to speak directly with the loon, but so be it.  I would not want someone I specifically chose not to invite to weasel their way into an invitation, particularly someone who seems so manipulative.  The fact that she wrote on your website is also just plain weird.   P.S. I love that you used the word “wackadoo” – it’s part of my everyday language 🙂 

Post # 12
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4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Does this person even know you don’t like her anymore? That’s the bigger problem, I think. She deserves to know where she stands so she understands why she can’t possibly come to the wedding, aside from being a crazy person!

Post # 14
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, if the invitation was to the husband, then you can say something along the lines of “I’m sorry, Lisa, but when Jenny let me know that she wasn’t going to be bringing Brad, we had to give that spot to one of my FMIL’s guests, etc., etc., and now we are at our limit with the venue, yadda yadda …”

Post # 16
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I definitely do not think that this girl should come to your wedding. Whether it’s you or your friend who needs to tell her, I think it needs to be said. For me, I would definitely not want someone on my do not invite list at my wedding. I mean, I think about how much I’m paying/person and I’m like, I’m sorry, I don’t like you enough to spend that kind of money on you! lol, it’s your wedding and you don’t need that kind of stress on your day!

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