(Closed) Someone just kill me…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5667 posts
Bee Keeper

@MrsNeutrino: Wow… I know you’ve had trouble with her, but really? Threatening suicide is a no-go. Call 911 and call her bluff. She won’t do it again if the police show up with an ambulance- then again, maybe she needs a few days in hospital.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MrsNeutrino: I had a very similar situation with my Future Father-In-Law. All I can suggest is change your numbers and don’t give them to your family. When you call them, ensure your phone number is blocked. Let them know if they want to contact you they can do so through e-mail and your Fiance will call them.

It sounds like th emother is being emotionally abusive towards the both of you!

Also, awesome feature that phone companies now have is that you can have them block numbers from being able to call you for a few bucks a month.

While none of this will change her or her attitude (but honestly, I doubt she is going to change with the crap she has been putting you through), it is the best way to cut her out of your life.

I truly hope your Fiance is supportive of you and sees the need to take control of the situation and be the one that contacts her, not allowing her to contact the two of you.

 

Best of luck… for me and my Fiance it was hard (and still is hard after almost a year) but it was still the best decision we have made.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsNeutrino:  What does your Fiance think of all of this?  Does he see how damaging this is to you and your relationship?  This is a major bummer 🙁

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MrsNeutrino: If you want to PM me I can tell you all the things I had to do to “hide” from my Future Father-In-Law. Might work for you! Good luck!

Post # 9
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5667 posts
Bee Keeper

@MrsNeutrino: Haha! Sure! I’d probably do a really bad job of it though!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In all seriousness – and tell your Fiance too, if she threatens suicide, you call 911 immediately (it doesn’t matter if you’re in the same state or not – they’ll patch you through to wherever the person threatening suicide is calling from).

Thats for 2 reasons –

1 – you and your Fiance don’t want it on your minds that you ignored it IF (god forbid) she is having some kind of real psychiatric crisis – I know you’ve had a past with her, but really you never know.

2- you make it ever so clear to her that suicide is not a tool you can use to get your way or emotionally manipulate people. It should be taken very, very seriously – which includes calling 911 and having a policeman and an ambulance show up at your door.  End of story!

 

and sorry that you guys are dealing with this!!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yikes!!!! this is a hard one.  Ummmmm…….I don’t know.  The only thing I can think of is, try to figure out a way to move far far far away from his mom.  But, I know that is not always that easy to do.  But, it might be something to plan for the future. Wow, good luck!! My heart goes out to you.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsNeutrino:

Thats a good plan.  I don’t say this to scare you – but because it pisses me off to NO end when people use suicide as a manipulation tactic.

A friend of mine from HS had an ex boyfriend who threatened to kill himself 2 or 3 times after she broke up with him.  She told him to get help, but didn’t report it (and I don’t blame her, we were 18 then and didn’t really know better) – but he did end up killing himself a few weeks later, and she had a lot of guilt and grief to deal with.  He was a selfish, manipulative a-hole for using it as a threat to get her back – but in the end, he really was having a crisis, and its possible it could have been prevented.  Its just a shit situation – and people should know the consequences of threatening to kill themselves if they don’t actually mean it, or get help immediately if they do mean it.      /end rant… sorry!

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