Someone posted my ring in a ring shaming group.

posted 2 weeks ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I mean why would you even be on a ring shaming site in the first place? Sounds like you were happy to laugh when it was other people but feel differently now it’s been flipped on you. 

Ultimately everyone should try to care less about what other people think. You love you ring so that shouldn’t be different just because someone else doesn’t like it. Just try to forget about it and don’t give sites like that the hits. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

It’s a really shitty thing to shame other people for their rings. Very shallow and very outright mean. You have to be a pretty low person to do that.

Post # 5
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233 posts
Helper bee

Ring shaming sites or pages exist?! I had no idea.. another form of bullying. If someone posts there, it says a lot about their character. If you’re happy with your ring, and it sounds like you are, who cares what people on the internet think? I just hope it wasn’t shared by a “friend”, that would hurt quite a bit!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

For the record, I just went and looked up your ring and it’s beautiful! I can see why you loved the design but wanted better quality. It sounds like the shaming had more to do with the fact that it was inspired by a Zales ring , sort of like when people shame counterfeit purses etc. I don’t think this is the same thing at all since you didn’t go with the original maker due to quality issues! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I wasn’t even aware ring shaming groups existed. I mean- wtf? seriously? 

If anyone shames someone else’s ring, that says far more about them than it does the person they’re trying to shame. Like when Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s rivals attempted to shame her by posting a video of her dancing in her youth- there was nothing at all shameful about the video, it showed a zest for life and some pretty decent dance moves. But it also spoke volumes about the mean-spiritedness in trying to shame her and what they considered shameful. I know politics and rings are apples and oranges- but it’s still applicable re mean  people trying to put someone else down for something that is only shameful in their super-judge-y petty minds. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

PP makes a good point – why are you in the group anyway? Let’s say someone told you your ring was posted, why do the opinion of strangers matter? The internet is filled with miserable people who need company. You don’t need to justify to strangers (or anyone really) why you picked the ring you did. I would go back to enjoying my happy moment and let them continue in their misery.

 

Edited: lots of comments came through and I see now someone told you about it. I’d tell them not to send you anything else about the page. Filter the energy being brought to you.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

lemonsandlife71 :  

if it’s someone who has you blocked, chances are it’s someone  you don’t get along with and I’m betting they were just looking for a reason to pick on you. If they went through all the trouble to look up your ring despite having you blocked , sounds like they have way too much time on their hands and need to start worrying more about their gross personality. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

dk1129 :  OP clarified straight away that she is not in the group, a friend told her about the post.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Your ring is gorgeous, i wouldnt even let them enter your bubble! You made a smart choice and went for a ring like you wanted but better quality, wheres the shame in that! fuck all those people. 

Post # 14
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Newbee

princessmiaofgenovia :  I just edited my post. There was 1 comment as I was posting, so the replies hadn’t come through yet. The internet works fast. 🙂

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