Someone posted my ring in a ring shaming group.

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 1984

Jeez! Do people not have better things to do with their time? Shaming someone for their ring is ridiculous. Honestly, if you have enough time to be catty and post on a ring shaming site, you should volunteer at a homeless shelter or other worthy endevour. Perhaps that would put life in perspective.

Post # 47
9560 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i’m shocked on multiple levels.  but mostly that it was your mom’s friend that posted it to the group.  i hope when your mom said she “took care of it” means she is no longer friends with that person.  i wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who hurt my child in anyway.

Post # 48
2667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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lemonsandlife71 :  wow……is the group called Pathetic Salty Bitches Anonymous? Lmfao 🤣🤣🤣

Post # 49
3091 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Who cares? It’s a beautiful ring and it’s none of their business.

Post # 50
5760 posts
Bee Keeper

Chickens..will be chickens.. we pay them no mind.

Post # 51
1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

You did the smart thing by making your ring customized. Your ring was probably posted by someone who got a ring from Zales and regretted it. 

Ring designs aren’t copywrited. There is no shame in getting inspiration from one design and trying to make it your own. Many jewelers will encourage you to do that. It is NOT the equivalent of trying to knock off a purse and passing it off as an Hermes or a Louis Vuitton. You’re not running around pretending you have a Zales ring, or showing off a fake Zales logo on your ring.

People are so cruel. I do feel that rings, weddings, and the like bring out the worst in people, especially insecure women. 

Post # 52
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 1995

Honestly, I wouldn’t take the bait.  But you already did by signing up to the group and “defending” your ring.

Only very insecure people bad mouth other people’s happiness about trivial matters such as what a ring looks like. This is evident to anyone who has been around the block a few times. 

I don’t know your mother’s friend’s age, but I would be surprised to discover that middle aged ladies are avidly participating in shaming sites about engagement rings. The people I know at this age are well past this kind of juvenile pettiness and are out living their own lives. 

Plus, is she insinuating that a Zales ring is a luxury product like Tiffany? This is too weird at every level.


Post # 53
2106 posts
Buzzing bee

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lemonsandlife71 :  I just found your ring on a different post before seeing this post. I was intrigued by its uniqueness, and amazed at seeing a ring look like a snowflake! Your ring is gorgeous and I cannot believe anyone would have anything negative to say about it. Sure, it may not be eveeyone’s cup of tea, but to have anything mean to say about it is unthinkable. 

It must take a real miserable bitch to intentionally go through the effort to start a thread making fun of something that symbolizes one of the happiest aspects of someone’s life. 

Post # 54
10487 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I have to say, this thread kind of makes me chuckle because I remember the Heather Barnes saga of a couple of years ago that multiple people here were involved in. 

You guys weren’t all anti ring shaming back then? 🤔🤔🤔

Post # 55
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

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co_katherine :  Eh, I think I see more meanness on Facebook and here than Reddit (although I agree Imgur is bad). Generally the Reddit mods are on top of things if you’re in the right sub. 


OP, I’m sorry you had to find out about this, but just know that you’re ring is fun and reflective of your relationship! This person needs to find more happiness in their life, and it’s sad that they think bringing someone down will build them up. 🙁

Post # 57
5663 posts
Bee Keeper

Iagree. People are so mean and it’s unnecessary. 

However designers can get a design patent or a trademark for a design. So it absolutely can be that a design is stolen. 

OP your ring is beautiful.  I’d probably bug your mom a bit to see if she talked to her “friend” because that’s pretty awful. 

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Post # 60
5283 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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crustyoldbee :  i vaguely remember, she would post a thread asking for big rings and after a few responses she would post hers
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slomotion :  . Is she the one who had the dirty nails and was fond of using the see you next Tuesday word?

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