(Closed) someone rsvpd in a really rude way! (vent)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Pixie26:  Check the stamp from the post office on the envelope. You can find out what city it was mailed from.

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Was “will ____ attend” already printed? If so, sometimes some ppl write in caps, nbd. Or did this person handwrite “will NOT attend”?

Post # 50
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Asia:  This doesn’t always work. A large portion of mine came back stamped with the name of the large city an hour north of us, despite being mailed within a ~20 minute radius of us.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@vorpalette:  oh yeah. It would have to do with a metro area more often than not. DX Might only work if everyone came from a different state.

 

Well, maybe OP can just kind of let go of the fact that one of her guests is kind of an ass, and just wait happily for the RSVPs of the lovely people who do love her and her fi. 🙂

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d be worried it was rude, too, but I can see that it may not be.  Hard to say.  

Do you have any older relatives that might think you shouldn’t have a wedding since you were married a while ago?  I’ve heard that sometimes people get on their high horse about that.

But could just be someone with poor penmanship who forgot to fill in the name.

This type of thing is one reason why I wrote the guest names on the RSVP for them.  They just had to check the boxes!

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I feel like if someone was TRYING to be rude, they just never would have RSVPed in the first place.

Perhaps they put “NOT” in caps so you’d fully understand- and maybe they were in the middle of writing it and got distracted?

I have a five year old, and I do the *dumbest* things sometimes because I get distracted easily.  I will punch a number in my phone, just about to hit dial, and then someone will call.  I will TOTALLY forget to call that number I had JUST punched in because in my mind, it was checklisted off.  I will put the clothes in the dryer- then forget to hit start.  And that’s barely touching the other stupid stuff I do lol  

I wouldn’t get upset about it unless you’re able to figure out the source and you have a logical reason to feel like they meant to insult you.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Pixie26:  oh, how unnecessarily rude!! too bad you didn’t put a number on the back of every RSVP card, and assigned each guest/family the corresponding number, because then you could have figured it out!

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I block print a lot, so if I get an RSVP that says will ___ attend, I’ll write “NOT” because that’s how I write. Sorry, but I can’t find anything rude about this. Annoying and absent minded, but everyone forgets things at times. Doesnt make you rude, just makes you human.

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

yea … i dont get the rude part 

Someone probably emphasising the will not come so it is clear and probably forgot to put their name. 

I am guilty of it myself but brides really need to calm down sometimes and not make major assumptions about family and friends without knowing facts. Getting mad with someone about how they wrote your RSVP card is not cool and in my opinion very bridezilla-ish. 

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

My grandma RSVPed to my wedding like that. No return address, no name on the card, just “Will be attending.” I only knew it was her by her God-awful handwriting. It could well be an oversight. A foolish one, but still an oversight.

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Not rude and I got an RSVP back with no name on it too. No big deal.

Post # 60
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Sugar Beekeeper

“will__attend was pre printed  they actually ignored that part and wrote it in themselves. could have totally been an honest mistake.” 

I think this person may have been  confused about the function of that blank line and thought there was no place for responding that they were not coming.  I do think “will NOT attend” is a rude way of putting it, but I’m not sure you  can have it both ways since the pre-printed reply  cards encourage exactly this response.  I don’t think the person meant to be rude, though.

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