Post # 1

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Newbee
I love showing off my ring, it’s perfect to me but the other day a girl commented on it and said “It’s so pretty it looks fake!” I promise it is not fake at all.. which even if it was how rude of her to say That! Anyone else have someone say something similar or am I just being too emotional over it? Thanks!

Post # 2

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Worker bee
Screw what someone else says about your ring. If you love it then that’s all that matters. Even if the stones aren’t ‘real, ‘ I’m guessing diamond, it doesn’t under value your relationship or the meaning behind the ring.
Post # 3

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Bumble bee
Next time ask her if she thinks it’s a hologram. Because regardless of the type of stone or metal, it looks pretty real to me. I’m pretty sure my eyes aren’t just imagining it on your finger.
Post # 4

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Helper bee
Jamie Frasier : as long as u know it’s real that’s all that matters. Even if anyone’s ring isn’t expensive gen stone its meaning does not change. Then again , even if stone was not real diamond who says that! How rude. Doesn’t tell anything about ur ring but a lot about that person.
Post # 5

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Bumble Beekeeper
Jamie Frasier : I’m wondering if, in some weird way, it was actually meant as a compliment (similar to “I can’t believe a real ring would look so beautiful”). Whether it was a clumsy compliment, or her being rude – either way, don’t worry about it.
Post # 6

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Newbee
I wouldn’t stress. I think my e-ring looks like cz sometimes. ITS SO SPARKLY. Like blinding. I’ve chalked it up to the fact that it’s only a week old and hasn’t been worn long enough to make it look like a permanent piece on my finger.
it could’ve actually been a genuine compliment too. The ring is gorgeous don’t worry!
Post # 7

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Busy bee
aussiemum1248 : That’s what I was thinking.
OP, I sometimes look at a ring and wonder if it’s a diamond, etc because it’s so sparkly and beautiful. I wouldn’t think any different if it weren’t real diamonds. It’s just interesting to me and nothing more. Try to brush it off☺ and now that I’m on weddingbee I can’t stop looking at all rings LOL
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
I imagine it was a clumsy compliment. You know your ring is real (whatever that means) so why stress?
Post # 9

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Helper bee
Why would you feel like you had to ‘promise’ it’s not fake?
I wouldn’t worry about anyone else’s opinion of your ring. What matters is that you love it for what it is, and what it stands for.
Post # 10

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Buzzing bee
I’m thinking clumsy compliment too. Very clumsy! Don’t sweat it, really.
Rude people could manage to insult any ring: too small/too big and gaudy, boring/ too fussy or weird.
I’ve got a boring plain solitaire that also manages to be ostentatious (large centre stone), or an amazing classic solitaire, depending on your tastes.
I can’t believe how rude some people are. Perhaps because I’m an old bat of 46, and live in the U.K. I’ve only had one slightly negative comment and I’ve never heard friends or colleagues slag off other people’s engagement rings, it would mark you out as a nasty cow straightaway.
If anyone is definitely snarky about your ring, and you don’t want to ignore it (my dull but favoured response) I recommend the oft toted phrase for rudeness “Why would you say a thing like that?” delivered with a steady calm voice and slight frown. This can be customised for most situations “Why would you say a thing like that to a new mother?” Why would you say a thing like that about someone’s wedding?”.
Post # 11

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Sugar bee
Another vote for clumsy compliment. Honestly, before the bee I didn’t know “cute” wasn’t a compliment (I have a small solitaire and wouldn’t have thought twice if someone called it cute). I’d let this go.
Post # 12

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Sugar bee
She thinks she’s giving you a compliment. Just smile and nod politely at the well meaning idiots.
Post # 13

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Helper bee
I said that to one of my good friends in regards to her hair, but I meant it 100% as a compliment! I knew it was all her hair, but it was so shiny, pretty, healthy, and perfectly in place that it looked like some of the best weave/wigs I’ve ever seen LOL. Usually wigs and weave are so perfect and rarely look “natural” bc of this. She knew what I meant and didn’t take offense…even laughed and said “thank you”.
So I honestly think that girl meant well when she said that about your ring. I mean alot of cz stones are nicer looking than many diamonds bc they are sooo sparkly, white, and flawless. Not to knock down diamonds, but you get what I’m saying. Your ring is stunning!!
Post # 14

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Busy bee
Yes it has happened to me. A few months ago and it was from two teenagers that I did not know. Total strangers. I heard one whisper (loudly) you think it’s real? And the other nodded no. So I turned and said “it’s real, are you?” To which they both (girl and boy) started to run away giggling like utter morons. It happens OP. people can be dopes.
Post # 15

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Blushing bee
Your ring is beautiful. I agree with a clumsy compliment. Sometimes my mouth beats my logic & I say something stupid & I immediately regret it. I’d like to think this is what happened here.