(Closed) Someone said my ring was small…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m so sorry this happened to you! I will tell you though that be proud of the ring you have because of what it means to you more than anything. People will judge no matter what size your ring is. My round solitaire is over a carat and some people say it is either too small or too big. You’re never going to make everyone else happy. Congrats on your engagement and welcome to the Hive!

Post # 4
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You have to remember that the words big or small are really just descriptive words relative to size. What is big or small can change person to person and if someone says its big or small its not necessarily a judgement that means its a good or bad thing.

The person making that comment was commenting on the ratio of $ to size and probably wasnt thinking it was going to be taken as an insult. It was an observation.

I think its best to not tell anyone what was paid for a piece of jewelry no matter who the person or what the jewelry piece is. Its a personal decision to decide what something is worth to you.

It sounds like you love the ring and that is what is most important about it. 

Post # 5
17 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

@abouttobe:  Don’t let it bother you. Everyone has their own taste and opinion. She had no right to ask you how much it cost either! Thats just plain rude! You love it and that’s all that matters. Who cares what other people think.

I know a couple who spent $100 on her engagement ring cause she didn’t want anything flashy. It’s just a sterling silver ring with two ruby’s and she LOVES it!! she’s had people comment saying “that doesn’t look like an engagement ring” but she doesn’t care because it’s the sentimentality behind it.. not how much it cost or how big the diamond is, it’s the meaning of it and the beauty of simplicity 🙂

Post # 6
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That would upset me, too.. I wouldn’t really know how to respond to that. But I would ignore it, if I were you. Regardless of what anyone says about it, it’s what you wanted, and that’s all that matters. I never understood that.. it’s not on their finger so they really shouldn’t be worried about it!

Post # 7
2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Someone’s always going to have a comment when you’re newly engaged, whether it’s meant to be nice, snarky, or comes off as unintentionally rude. I think that the woman who asked what it cost was being unintentionally rude, given that I don’t know this woman’s everyday personality. I’ve just seen a lot of girls getting asked what their FIs paid for their ring. I’ve been asked, and people have asked how big my diamond was as well. Sometimes curiosity is just right there in your face, no holds barred! She obvoiusly didn’t understand the rigorous requirements and specs that the Leo diamond holds.

As for the jeweler: Whether or not anyone other that you and your Fiance thinks it’s “worth it” to have a name brand diamond is NOT for them to vocalize to your face. I wonder what grudge he’ll hold now after getting reprimanded for being such a dick.


Post # 8
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My ring is small, simple, and oh so cute!  I don’t care what they think.  Let them say what they want.  I wear my .25 with pride!

Post # 9
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Can we see a pic of your lovely?

Post # 10
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Honestly, I think it was more rude that she asked you how much your ring cost. I would have said something like, “Oh, I’m not sure- my Fiance took care of all that by himself. Didn’t he do a wonderful job? I love my ring!”

I mean, yes, .36 is not the biggest ring in the world…but who cares? You love it, and your Fiance gave it to you with love in his heart, and that’s all that matters. Let it roll off your back and know that at least you have better manners than your co-worker.

Post # 11
764 posts
Busy bee

I guess I’m not understanding why you are offended. Why does small=bad? As for the “you overpaid” that comment would not be possible if you did not share the cost.  Many people feel like diamond experts thanks to the Internet. There are lots of people who think branded diamonds are a rip off.  There’s also That chance that he actually DID overpay. My vote is to get over it. You cannot control the things people say or their intentions…only your reactions to it 

Post # 12
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Oh and don’t mention her comment to your Fiance — it doesn’t bear repeating (unless you actually do want a bigger stone & are looking for a conversation starter, which it doesn’t sound like you do/are).

Post # 13
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Next time someone says that, look directly in their eyes while you calmly switch the ring from left hand to right.  Punch them in the forehead, leaving a ring-sized indent.  Then pull out a mirror and show them their face, saying, “Small, huh?”


Post # 14
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

K unless she’s like your best friend, it’s sooooo rude to ask what a piece of jewelry costs! Wow! Second, if she doesn’t know anything about diamonds then she probably thinks that you pay for size, not quality. 

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