Post # 1
Hello! I’m new to the bee… well, I’ve been reading for a while but this is my first post. I was hoping you guys could help me out. I’ve been engaged since February and I love my engagement ring. It’s a little smaller than I had imagined it would be, but I love it and I wouldn’t trade it for anything! My FI did a wonderful job picking it out and spends a lot of time researching items before he purchases anything so I know the same went for my ring. It’s a stunning .36 round solitaire, a Leo diamond. Recently, a jewler told me that my FI over paid if he bought me a Leo. Um, hello… I’m wearing this ring and my FI is standing right next to me?! Do you honestly think that you will ever have me as a customer now? My FI was not happy and called to file a formal complaint. As it turns out, he was let go from a local jewelry store that carries the Leo diamond and he holds a grudge. However, I will still not buy from that jewelry store and would advise against it for everyone else. That’s no way to do business.
Then, today someone at work asked to look at it and we were talking about it and she asked me what it cost, I told her and she said “wow, I never would have guessed that given how small it is…” Wow. I didn’t know what to say. I was kind of taken aback that someone would even think to ask the cost, but then she hit me with a comment like that. All of this happened in one weekend so I’m feeling a little hurt. I wear my ring with pride. It’s simple, but it’s exactly what I wanted. Even with all of the money in the world I wouldn’t pick a different ring. I think my FI did a wonderful job, but the comments still hurt. Has this ever happened to any of you? How did you deal with it? My FI was there for the jewelry store incident but I haven’t told him about the comment at work. I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I’m afraid if he knows, he’ll think that I want something bigger.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry this happened to you! I will tell you though that be proud of the ring you have because of what it means to you more than anything. People will judge no matter what size your ring is. My round solitaire is over a carat and some people say it is either too small or too big. You’re never going to make everyone else happy. Congrats on your engagement and welcome to the Hive!
Post # 4
You have to remember that the words big or small are really just descriptive words relative to size. What is big or small can change person to person and if someone says its big or small its not necessarily a judgement that means its a good or bad thing.
The person making that comment was commenting on the ratio of $ to size and probably wasnt thinking it was going to be taken as an insult. It was an observation.
I think its best to not tell anyone what was paid for a piece of jewelry no matter who the person or what the jewelry piece is. Its a personal decision to decide what something is worth to you.
It sounds like you love the ring and that is what is most important about it.
Post # 5
@abouttobe: Don’t let it bother you. Everyone has their own taste and opinion. She had no right to ask you how much it cost either! Thats just plain rude! You love it and that’s all that matters. Who cares what other people think.
I know a couple who spent $100 on her engagement ring cause she didn’t want anything flashy. It’s just a sterling silver ring with two ruby’s and she LOVES it!! she’s had people comment saying “that doesn’t look like an engagement ring” but she doesn’t care because it’s the sentimentality behind it.. not how much it cost or how big the diamond is, it’s the meaning of it and the beauty of simplicity 🙂
Post # 6
That would upset me, too.. I wouldn’t really know how to respond to that. But I would ignore it, if I were you. Regardless of what anyone says about it, it’s what you wanted, and that’s all that matters. I never understood that.. it’s not on their finger so they really shouldn’t be worried about it!
Post # 7
Someone’s always going to have a comment when you’re newly engaged, whether it’s meant to be nice, snarky, or comes off as unintentionally rude. I think that the woman who asked what it cost was being unintentionally rude, given that I don’t know this woman’s everyday personality. I’ve just seen a lot of girls getting asked what their FIs paid for their ring. I’ve been asked, and people have asked how big my diamond was as well. Sometimes curiosity is just right there in your face, no holds barred! She obvoiusly didn’t understand the rigorous requirements and specs that the Leo diamond holds.
As for the jeweler: Whether or not anyone other that you and your FI thinks it’s “worth it” to have a name brand diamond is NOT for them to vocalize to your face. I wonder what grudge he’ll hold now after getting reprimanded for being such a dick.
Post # 8
My ring is small, simple, and oh so cute! I don’t care what they think. Let them say what they want. I wear my .25 with pride!
Post # 9
Can we see a pic of your lovely?
Post # 10
Honestly, I think it was more rude that she asked you how much your ring cost. I would have said something like, “Oh, I’m not sure- my FI took care of all that by himself. Didn’t he do a wonderful job? I love my ring!”
I mean, yes, .36 is not the biggest ring in the world…but who cares? You love it, and your FI gave it to you with love in his heart, and that’s all that matters. Let it roll off your back and know that at least you have better manners than your co-worker.
Post # 11
I guess I’m not understanding why you are offended. Why does small=bad? As for the “you overpaid” that comment would not be possible if you did not share the cost. Many people feel like diamond experts thanks to the Internet. There are lots of people who think branded diamonds are a rip off. There’s also That chance that he actually DID overpay. My vote is to get over it. You cannot control the things people say or their intentions…only your reactions to it
Post # 12
Oh and don’t mention her comment to your FI — it doesn’t bear repeating (unless you actually do want a bigger stone & are looking for a conversation starter, which it doesn’t sound like you do/are).
Post # 13
Next time someone says that, look directly in their eyes while you calmly switch the ring from left hand to right. Punch them in the forehead, leaving a ring-sized indent. Then pull out a mirror and show them their face, saying, “Small, huh?”
Post # 14
K unless she’s like your best friend, it’s sooooo rude to ask what a piece of jewelry costs! Wow! Second, if she doesn’t know anything about diamonds then she probably thinks that you pay for size, not quality.
Post # 15
Thank you so much ladies! You definitely made me feel better! I love the ring, and like I said, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I think it looks great on my finger! I know what she said wasn’t intended to be rude and she’s young, so I am sure she has no idea what goes into buying a diamond, but it still stung a little. I’m sure people feel that when you buy a Leo you are over paying. My FI used to say the same thing! He told me you were simply paying for the name, and although I’m sure there is some truth to that, he researched it and certainly never would have paid what he did for it if he didn’t think it was worth it. I know I shouldn’t have made mention of the price, and there were ways around it, but it kind of fell out of my mouth purely from shock. I was dumbfounded that someone would ever ask such a thing!! I’m not going to say anything to my FI, you guys are right. It isn’t worth it and I certainly don’t want any other ring.
@blingbling The person who said I “over paid” for the ring was a jeweler, not the person who asked me the price. I didn’t tell him the price although he rudely tried to guess. I will definitely be better prepared with my response next time. Life is truely all in how you react I guess.
@peachacid Love the idea 🙂 If her intentions were bad, I would have!
@jade33 How do I post a picture? Can I upload one from my cell phone?
Post # 16
@blingbling: The person who said I “over paid” for the ring was a jeweler, not the person who asked me the price. I didn’t tell him the price although he rudely tried to guess. I will definitely be better prepared with my response next time. Life is truely all in how you react I guess.
Sorry if you get this twice, I didn’t realize that I could reply individually.