(Closed) Someone will flame me for this buuuuut…

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I kind of am. My (last) Great Grandma just passed away this year, and I knew my Great Great Grandma up until I was like four too. I have all four of my grandparents still, and I have met 3 or so of my great grandparents, and I think that is pretty cool. I also had hip, active grandparents who were very involved in my life.

My husband’s parents had him and his brother later in life than when my parents had me and my siblings (although, ironically my parents have been married longer by just a few months). He knew his grandpa, and still has a grandpa and grandma halfway across the country that he never sees. They were older and weren’t “fun” grandparents like what I had.

I guess what I am saying is that I am glad that we are having our first baby at 23 – later this summer. I’m excited that he or she will get to have grandparents who can be involved like I had versus the old and frail grandparents that my husband had.

ETA: I don’t expect my kids to have kids early for me, I am just glad that I can give them that experience on my part. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had my daughter at 18, I really hope my little girl and future children will wait until they are married and are ready, but I do agree with you! I have a fear of death also and I so hope I get to see my great grand children ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you’re crazy at all! Fiance is the youngest of 5 and his parents are in their early 70s. Mine are in their early 50s and are the same age as his oldest brother. 

We both know that we don’t want to be old parents like his but really a few years won’t make a huge difference. My mom was 24 when she had me, at the earliest I’ll be 28 when we have our first. I’m not really too worried, it’s all about your attitude and not necessarily your age. 

Post # 7
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, I’d never really thought about it.  At this rate, even if we had a kid tomorrow, my husband would be 50 at their highschool graduation.  I’ve never really counted on even meeting any great grandkids.   

3 of my grandparents died before I was 5, and I had one great grandma up until I was 18.  Now, I just have one grandma left that has no great grandkids, and she nags us something fierce ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Ill probably be 40 when I have my first, so I totally get what you mean.

Post # 10
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Darling Husband and I calculated it and if I had a baby right away, and she had a baby at 16-ish, and this cycle continued, I could easily be a great-grandma, or great-great grandma (I forget how far we got).  Crazy.

Post # 12
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

Having kids young doesn’t mean you’ll live to see your great grandkids. Not to be a downer, but young parents die, just like older ones.

This is just a pet peeve of mine, I guess because my parents had me at 20 and 21 and my dad died at 42. I’m 30 and still will be when this baby is born in Sept, I could live until I’m 95, like my great grandma. This baby will be her 9th or 10th great great grandchild. It just depends.

 

Post # 14
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7494 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My mom and I were talking about this kind of thing recently.  She was saying how she most likey will see my older daughter graduate college, get married maybe have a baby etc, but because of the age difference between my girls (8 years) she is sad that she may not get to see all of those things with the younger one.  Unless they have babies super young- which I do not wish for! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 15
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5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve definitely thought about things like this…. I was 20 when I had my munchkin… my mom was 20 when she had me…. AND her mom was 16 when she had her (was pretty normal for the culture… she was married already to my gp)… Becuase of that though my grandma has gotten to see my munchkin and is still young enough to enjoy him… I’m thankful that she’ll be around to see the children Darling Husband and I have and hopefully them grow up. My other grandparents are in their 70s so I’m glad they’ve gotten to see me get married and enjoy the munchkin… hopefully we’ll get many more years still so they can see more =)

I do hope that I’ll get to see the same things my grandparents have gotten =)

 

Post # 16
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I never think of any of this… like a pp said you can die at any age… I just live in the moment and try not to worry about things that are totally out of my control. If I live to see my grandkids I’ll feel blessed and happy I wont be disappointed that I didnt get to see great-grand kids

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