Post # 1
I was wondering what the “protocol” was for obtaining something borrowed? Do you ask for something? Is something offered? We’re still in the early stages and the “somethings” haven’t been brought up (I’ve decided on the others already, though), but what is customary? My friends who have gotten married borrowed things from their sisters, but since I’m not even sure my two older sisters will even be invited (I haven’t spoken to one in 13-years and the other in 5-years), that won’t work for me.
Just curious. And what were your borrowed somethings?
Post # 3
Hmmm… I don’t know about the etiquette of “borrowing”; good question.
My Mom offered me my grandmother’s pearls to wear, they look perfect with my ivory lace dress. Maybe you family had some heirloom jewelry you could borrow?
Post # 4
@Ivorybuttons: Sadly, no. My parents sold a lot of jewelry when our house went into foreclosure and the movers “lost” the rest. It’s been a pretty tragic experience.
Post # 5
I don’t think there is necessarily a protocal. I think you just ask someone to borrow something just like you’d ask to borrow a pen. It’s clearly a bigger deal than asking for a pen, but yaknow? It’s kind of the same thing. Perhaps a close friend of yours has a necklace that stands out…you could ask her? It just depends what you’re looking to borrow I guess. I’d only ask someone close to you to borrow something and definitely only ask to borrow something if the person is invited to the wedding. I think it could turn awkward otherwise…
More than likely my something borrowed with come from my Grandma’s jewlery box. I just asked her what she had and closer to the time of my wedding I’ll ask again. She was fine with it and we looked over things together and got some ideas.
Post # 6
I am “borrowing” my MOH’s perfume 🙂
Post # 7
Both my sister and cousin offered to loan me things (dress and veil, respectively), my mom offered to loan my earrings, and my bff loaned me hair pins. I guess I’d say that if no one offes to loan you something, you can ask. I think most people would be flattered that you’d want to wear something of theirs on your wedding day.
Actually, come to think of it, my SIL asked to borrow a necklace of mine when she married ,y brother. I was really happy that she wanted to wear it. So yes, if no one offers anything — ask!
Post # 8
a friend offered to loan me her veil which i quickly accepted! If she had not I would have asked to borrow something from my bridesmaids Maid/Matron of Honor or my FMIL!!
Post # 9
@BetterSherm: I’m so sorry to hear that. On the flipside… it also gets you out of wearing something not-to-you-taste because it’s been in your family forever.
The other Bees here have some fantastic suggestions. I love the Maid/Matron of Honor perfume idea!
Post # 10
I’m also borrowing a veil from my matron of honor/cousin/bestie. I asked her and she was happy to oblige. I couldn’t think of anything else since some of my jewelry is my something old (vintage) and I had everything else covered. The perfume is a great idea!
Post # 11
im going to borrow my mothers rosary to wrap around my bouquet.
Post # 12
i don’t think it has to be jewelry. my roommate “borrowed” her MOH’s veil. i haven’t figured out my “something borrowed” yet. but it could be something as simple as a song. or maybe the car you go to the ceremony in (if you don’t do the limo route)? my aunt did that. her uncle collects cars, and he let her borrow a beautiful classic car to use for her transportation when she went from home to the church, and then from the church to the reception.
Post # 13
One of my bridesmaids was going to let me borrow her wedding dress for part of the reception to wear because it is short and my dress is going to get hot! Does that count or does it have to be something you wear the entire day from start to finish?