Something called a husband stitch – is this a real thing? ??

posted 9 months ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Have you or anyone you know received a husband stitch without requesting it or being consulted
    Yes : (10 votes)
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  • Post # 31
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Hmm, I’ve had the opposite experience of most pp. No husband stitch, and I feel looser than I used to down there, which is a bit distressing. I keep asking dh if it feels the same and he swears it does, but I do not think he’d tell me if it didn’t, lol. We started having sex again when I was about 7 weeks pp. It didn’t hurt at all (whew) and I didn’t need any lube, but it def doesn’t feel quite the same. I’m 10w pp now and sex is slowly starting to feel more normal. FWIW, I just had one small tear near the urethra, so the actual vagina was not affected (aside from insane stretching to accommodate my baby, obv). 

    Post # 32
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If my OB so much as hinted at something like this I would report them. Maybe it used to be a thing back in the day, but not so much anymore.

    I do think a lot of women experience pain, discomfort and tightness after birth because there is often scar tissue left in that spot instead of stretchy skin. I had a second degree tear and it took me a good year to feel back to normal with sex.

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    So I can’t say whether or not this is actually a “thing”.  But I will say that I tore during both my deliveries.  For my first, I had a male OB that delivered and stitched me up.  I had pain during sex every single time after that until I had my second baby.  After my second delivery and tearing, I had a female OB stitch me up, and have felt completely normal after healing.  Coincidence or…?

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

    I have actually heard of this and it infuriates me. I also feel like it’s becoming less and less prevalent. 

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

    Kayla0416 :  I would say you developed scar tissue after your first that you tore open with your second and you healed better after that. It has nothing to do with male vs. female stitching techniques and that’s a totally ignorant thing to say. 

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    this is something that has always terrified me. Although the practice im going to has nothing but female staff and doctors, so im not as worried having to cross this road. But im also not going to be afraid to speak up right after delivery and say something to make sure everyone in the room better not play pull anything i havent agreed to if i do end up having a natural birth. 

    Post # 37
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t doubt that this happens, maybe with old-school type doctors?  I had two deliveries and had stitches twice but this was not done to me (once a woman doctor, once a man).  I will say that if you are breastfeeding sex can be (initially) quite uncomfortable.  For me it lasted until my period returned both times (7.5mo pp and 1 year pp) so some of that is hormonal I think.  I am 2 years out from my last kid and have no issues.

    I only have maybe 3 friends that might tell me something like this if they had an issue but haven’t heard of any issues from them.  

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2019 - .

    If I stitch my fingers together without removing the skin between them first, I can’t see how they’d heal stuck together. I don’t see how “extra” stitches could make you tighter without removing tissue first (which they don’t do). An extra stitch for good measure just sounds like they’re trying to reinforce your other stitches, which is a good thing.

    I’ve never had a baby, but I’ve had back surgery, and it took about 8 months for my scar to not feel so tight when I bend… I’d imagine vaginal tightness from scar tissue is far more noticeable. 

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    clairykoo :  Aaaaaaaaand that’s how your doctor ends up as a patient.

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