Post # 1
So l am not stranger to Mother-In-Law drama. We got a long very well and were like BFF’s while Darling Husband and I were dating. She lost her mind essentially as soon and we got engaged. She felt as though I was “stealing her little boy” from her. She made the wedding planning process torture and our relationship after marriage is essentially non-existent. Well after reading a couple Future Mother-In-Law posts today I started thinking…
What does my brother’s wife actually think about our Mom?
All of us that complain about our MIL’s that have brothers, do you think that perhaps your SIL had the same issues with your Mom? I couldn’t imagine my mom being that way, but obvisouly based on what we see here, some of them have to be those terrible FMIL/MIL’s.
Have you ever thought about this? Do you think your Mom might be a horrid MIL?
Post # 3
Of course not! My mom’s perfect!!
Post # 4
My brother doesn’t have a girlfriend at the moment but I have seen my very nonconfrontational very quiet mother create quite a rift between herself and a girlfriend. I think there is just something about your children that makes you go into mama bear mode without even thinking.
Post # 5
lol in our relationship it is my mother thats the problem!
Post # 6
Haha good question! One of my SILs probably loves my mom. She probably has her moments with her… because my mom likes to be in control. But for the most part, I think they get along pretty well. Plus it helps that they live in different states. But my Brother-In-Law probably doesn’t get along with my mom at all. Maybe a little but, they live 20 minutes apart… so I’m sure she’s all up in their business. There are other reasons, but I won’t go into detail. Oh well 🙂 Maybe we’re just destined to have a semi-strange relationship with MILs. It makes sense, because we’re entering into a new family with new rules.
Post # 7
I called my sister in-law at first she said, “Everyone loves your parents. They are fantastic an so easy to get a long with. I love them more than my own most of the time”. However, after a little poking she did admit that my mother actually gave her a list of names of people to invite. Told her that her dress was “ok” when she first saw it and one time made a comment about how she already had 2 daughters and didn’t need another one!!! Really? Holy Moly! My Mom was an ass. She did say though that after the wedding it all went back to normal. too funny.
Post # 8
my brothers wife thinks the same thing that i do about our mother – shes a pain in the butt, selfish, rude, judgemental and its annoying as heck to have to deal with her
Post # 9
My mom’s crazy laid-back and all my SIL’s love her because of it. My stepmother is a nutjob, though. First she claimed my Stepbrother was only marrying my SSIL because she was pregnant and wanted his insurance and was a gold-digger (my SSIL’s family is crazy-loaded, btw. Old money.) Then my SSIL changed her wedding date AFTER she had already booked everything and sent invitations because my SM said she couldn’t make it that particular day. Then SM claimed she hadn’t received either invitation, so SSIL hand-delivered one to her, but apparently that meant that SSIL didn’t really want SM there. Then after all that SM and Dad didn’t show up in protest of the wedding. And SM has only gotten crazier in the decade since. I have one SIL that adores her (and she’s batshit herself) but the others are polite, but otherwise avoid her at all costs.
Post # 10
HA! My mom is a horrible Mother-In-Law to MY fi!
Do I think she’d be a horrible Mother-In-Law to my brothers wife, whomever she ends up to be?
not a chance. my brother can do no wrong.
Post # 11
My brother’s wife loves my mom! lol It took her a bit to get used to how our family operates (she came from a not so good family situation) but once she did, she’s really settled right in. It helps a bit, I’m sure, that her mom is on the other side of the country and won’t travel at all, and that my mom loves to babysit and does so at least 2-3 times a week.
And from my mom’s perspective, she loves my SIL as well. 🙂 She’s so thrilled to have a good relationship with her that lets her spend so much time with her grandkids!
Post # 12
I know my situation with my inlaws has helped me be accepting of the women my brothers bring home. (more on them in a minute) I’ve realized that I never know who’s going to be the one and every moment of our relationship counts.
Its hard because my one brother is totally emo and brings home crazy vampire chicks (who usually turn out to be really awesome), my other brother is a man whore and regularly brings home girls who’s tits are hanging out their tops and bums out their teenie tiny skirts. His long term gf of a year ended up leaving him because she got a job at the Playboy mansion (how nice). And my yonguest brother (who’s started dating recently) brings home 16 year old girls who I just don’t understand (and cant believe I ever was one!)
However, I’ve appreciated them all for what they brought to the table. I love my brothers and want whats best for them, but ultimately I have to let them choose their own paths(or whores).
Post # 13
Neither of my brothers are married, but my older brother has been seriously dating his girlfriend for about 10 months now and I can tell you that she loves my mom and does not think my mom is crazy at all. But thats because my mom is very easy going and easy to get along wiith. Since my brother lives at my mom’s house (he is 27 but saving for a place) she spends a lot of time with my mom and they get along well.
My SILs know that I think their mom is crazy, because she is! At this point though, I love her, it’s just taken me a while esp. during wedding planning, to see a better side of her.
Post # 14
I love that you are thinking from the other side. Its easy to read a post and side with one side or the other. But in reality there is always more to the story. Emotions run high, people get stressed and suff happens to people with the best of intentions.
I know my brothers long term gf thinks my mom is great, but buts her head in. Probably because bro has an addiction problem and its always related to that. If that didnt exist I dont think she would have anything major to complain about. We all have small complaints, but that is normal and expected. I wouldnt believe anyone if they said their own mom or Mother-In-Law didnt annoy them sometime, or says something that ruffles your feathers, etc,
Post # 15
My parents were always everyone parents growing up, so I think that my Fiance and Brother-In-Law have it easy… though come think of it it took time with my Brother-In-Law… my Mom was horrible to him (mostly because my sister suprised her by telling her when she came home from work they had to go pick up her friend from England from the airport…) but they love him now! Fiance and who ever my brother ends up marrying are lucky to have my parents as in laws imo.
I’m lucky as well my Future In-Laws are great 🙂
Post # 16
My mom can be difficult at times with me, but I have to say- she’s always really happy with my brother’s girlfriends. My grandmother wasnt fond of my mom at first so my mom tries extra hard to be kind. My mom eventually won my grandmother over (I think my grandma preferred her to her own daughters at times)