Post # 1
I was asked to be a bridesmaid by a wonderful friend!!!! This friend of mine has always been such a happy go lucky girl for as long as I have known her. She is one of those people that never has had an enemy in the world. She is one of the most thoughtful people I have been lucky to know. Although she has just asked her wedding party I can tell she is not the bridezilla type. She wants to buy our dresses and still wants our imput?!?!?!?! I wanted to do something extra and nice to let her know it is my honor to be her bridesmaid and more importantly her friend. Does anyone have any ideas that I could do? As I have been a bridesmaid before but this one holds a special place to me I really want to let her know how I feel!!!! I plan to help with the shower and bachlorette party and help in anyway she needs help but I want to do something extra. Something thing that she can smile and know how amazing she is!!!!
Post # 3
Just asking her how wedding plans are going throughout the year helps! I know for me, I don’t like bringing up wedding plans to my friends because I don’t want to be someone who can only talk about the wedding..but secretly deep down inside, I am dying to tell everyone about it so whenever one of my girls asks me, I let it spill out! 🙂
Also, if you happen to ask her over a mani/pedi that is the icing on the cake! 🙂 🙂
Post # 4
As a bride, I just feel great when one of my bridesmaids offers their help with anything wedding related. I’m not a major bridezilla, although I do have my moments (lol), I never take them up on their offer. Just knowing that they are there if I need them is such a nice feeling.
How about offering up a spa day for you two? All brides could use a day away from the craziness to just relax and get pampered.
Post # 5
I think you’re a doll for asking this. I haven’t asked my bridesmaids for anything nor do I expect anything but I loooove when one of my maids sends me pinterest pics with ideas. Just recently I got pics of a sparkler send off and one of a fun bridal party pic saying “can we do this”. Just stuff like that makes me so happy I asked her to be in the wedding.
Post # 6
I’d say just being there for her especially the month leading up to the wedding. Maybe plan a spa day or offer to take her to get her nails done. My sister and my mom made me a care package of all the stuff I would need the day of – mints, bandaids, tissues, advil, robe to wear while I was getting my hair and makeup done, etc – all the little things you might forget about while everything else was going on. It was actually really helpful!
Post # 7
You’re so sweet!
Are you crafty? Can you make her a sign for her engagement pictures with their names and wedding date that she can later use as decor at the wedding? (My maid of honor did that for me and I love it.)
Ask her about her wedding colors and what type of decor she wants, and then search around for some ideas for centerpieces. (My maid of honor also did that and we are using her idea for my centerpieces.)
Create a scrapbook with all her wedding planning events along the way.
Take her out for a drink every now and then to let her know you really want to still hang out with her as a friend and not just because you feel required to do stuff with her as her bridesmaid.
Offer to go with her to check out venues, DJs, hair/makeup artists, photographers, caterers, etc. My maid of honor came with me to meet my hair/makeup person and offered to come meet DJs with me. I thought that was sweet of her.
Post # 8
Book her a mani/pedi, massage or spray tan session the day before her bridal shower or bachelorette party. It will make her feel extra special. Plus, as a bride I found my funds running low around the time of my bachelorette party so it was the nicest surprise when one of my maids told me she had arranged for me to get a spray tan (knowing I love them) the day before my bachelorette party.
Post # 9
This is so sweet! I would say to make sure you plan her a great shower and bachelorette. Great does not mean pricey, just well thought out. It takes off a lot of stress by letting her know that you and the other maids will work with her mom/FMIL/whomever to make sure she has an awesome shower.
Post # 10
@MapleMoose: I agree! This would have been an awesome gift. I wish I had documented a little bit more of the process.
One thing you could also do is have each girl create a scrapbook page of their friendship with her. This would be more down the road as a wedding gift.
Along the way, just stay in touch and let her know that you would love to help her with anything she may need!
You’re going to be a great bridesmaid :o)
Post # 11
Thanks guys for all the great suggestions!!!!!
She is having a smaller wedding party!!! Just two BMs and two GMs!!
I have a confession….. I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man 8x before this one and at my wedding I looked at my cousin a said it would have to be a real special bride for me to ever be a Bridesmaid or Best Man again!!! And she fit that defintion.
I think I am going to mail her a gift card the first of every month until her wedding to a local resturant or movies or something like that. So her and her Fiance can go on a date night once a month and relieve some stress!!! What do ya think????
And of course make sure I offer my assistance and company weekly and let her talk my ear off about her plans since I know brides think that they might be boring people when they talk about it!!!!