Post # 1
I’m looking for my something old, and when I was recently visiting my mom, she came across the garter that she had gotten for her own wedding, which was 30-some years ago. She’s offered to let me use it, but I’m not sure how I feel about it. First of all, she eloped, and actually forgot to wear the garter for her wedding. Second of all, her and my dad divorced about 6 years ago. I am very close to my mom and we don’t have any other special family jewelry or anything, so it would be nice to wear something that’s hers, but at the same time, it’s also a remembrance of a marriage that’s now over. Am I overthinking this? Or should I just find something else?
Post # 3
To be honest, I would find wearing my mother’s undergarments pretty weird regardless of whether she was still married to my dad! But, if you’re comfortable wearing it, then I think it’s fine. I’m not a big one for superstition, so I don’t believe that wearing something owned by someone who got divorced means anything.
If you want to wear it, then go ahead!
Post # 4
@LadyElva: My thoughts as well.
Post # 5
@LadyElva: also agree.
Wearing my mothers undergarments just creeps me out. I love her to death..but would rather find something else.
Post # 6
@MountainLove: i would never wear my mother’s garter. That is just too weird for me!
Why don’t you take it and incorporate that into your bouquet? Use the lace on the stems?
Post # 8
I think wearing your mom’s lingere is weird regardless of her marital status.
Post # 9
@MountainLove: ACK my mom reeeealllllllly wants me to wear her garter. First of all, she was a size 0 when she got married and I am not. She keeps telling me “you can just wear it around your ankle.” Um, what?!!!! …. and second its so weird!!! And we arent even doing a garter toss!!!! I honestly dont understand her and wont be wearing it lol.
Post # 10
@MountainLove: I think it’s weird for two reasons: 1. It’s like lingerie, it’s an intimate item 2. The marriage has ended. It’s less weird because she didn’t actually remember to wear it, but I like a PP’s suggestion of using it on your bouquet or something. You can incorporate it somehow to honor your mom without wearing it on your thigh.
Post # 11
30-year old elastic doesn’t usually work the way it’s supposed to. I would be worried about it falling down.
Post # 12
Thanks for your input! I was also thinking it was weird because of its intimate nature, but forgot to put that in my original post.
I do like the suggestion of using it in the bouquet or in some other way, especially since the elastic probably won’t work well, as Daisy Mae pointed out. I’m excited I can still incorporate it without actually having to wear it 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
My parents are divorced, I wore Mom’s garter, and there was nothing “icky” about it at all. I don’t see how something that goes on your thigh is considered “intimate”- it’s not like I wore her bra or panties!
Yes, my parents’ marriage ended in divorce, but I was one of the (three) best things that happened in their marriage- I wouldn’t be here today without that marriage. So for me, it was a nice way to honor that marriage, regardless of it’s outcome.