Post # 1
I’m soo excited! Ever since I got engaged 17months ago one feature of modern weddings has stood out for me and that’s the mixing of the wedding party. Bride’s Bros, Bestmaids, Groom’s woman and Bro of honor are titles I found to be very whimsical, personal and modern. A few months ago my fiance and I were talking about his friends (he has know most for almost 20yrs now) and there roles in the wedding and to our surprise his closest female friend did not have a role in the wedding (she was simply a guest). I considered adding her to my bridal party but we don’t have that kind of relationship. So what to do…should we make her an usher, or have her read a passage, or sing a song. Nah! None of these options seemed enough for someone so important in my fiances circle of friends. As a joke (more like half of a joke) I suggested she join his party and he actually agreed. He immediately called her and told her the idea and asked if she was comfortable with it and she said YES… I was super exited! I really wanted a non-traditional wedding party but (1) I didn’t have anyone of the opposite sex that made the cut. (2) I just didn’t feel it would be something my fiance or my mom would agree with. To my surprise both are supportive of the idea. My mom thinks it is a spectacular idea and she appreciates how modern the concept is (this is the same mother who wants me to wear pearls on my wedding day because “brides traditionally wear pearls.” I can’t wait to see our grooms woman standing there with the groomsmen it will def. be one of the most memorable aspects of the wedding.
Any brides out there have a non-traditional wedding party? How did you choose your wedding party?
Post # 3
I have two best friends that are women and my Future Wife’s (eek!) best friend is her sister and brother-in-law. The way we are keeping it non-traditional is by calling them the “Best People”. We don’t want to pick a maid of honor or best woman, so Best People is the choice.
We are also having everyone in the birdal party wear tuxs (except me, I will have the dress). My Best People are so excited! They hate buying bridesmaids dresses and they can’t want to rock out in a tux!
Post # 4
My fiance is having a best WoMAN – and thats how he keeps saying it Woe Man. Lol his best friend is a female so I think its only fitting she is his best Woman. I know I wouldnt have thought twice asking for a guy to be a bestmaid if I had someone close enough.
Post # 5
i would totally bring up to have my best guy friend in the wedding, if he had a best friend that was a girl. but since he doesnt, i think my best friend understands, he will be a guest but i love the idea but i think if we have it on one side the other should have it as well!
Post # 6
I love this idea and if we hadn’t already decided that four was the limit for each side I would absolutely make one of my best guy friends a bridesman! We are however having my two younger sisters and his niece who he is the godfather of to be our ushers which is very nontraditional. We really wanted these younger girls to be in the service but agreed there was no place for them in the bridal party so the ushers was the next best thing. One of my sisters is gay so I’m letting her dress like the groomsmen and the other sister and neice get to dress like bridesmaids. They are all so excited, especially my sister who is gay, because I’m letting her be “her.” I told her I couldn’t even imagine putting a dress on her and that we just want her to be a part of our special day and be comfortable. Score 10 points for being an awesome older sister. 🙂
Post # 7
I was going to ask my best friend to stand on my side iwth me, but I just found out he is going to be out of town for work for the 2 weeks I have available to book my wedding. I’m a bit heart brokken but don’t know what to do about it. I guesss I’ll just ask my cousin. I know it was not a favorite of my plans for my future Mother-In-Law, but then she had issues with me going to a movie or dinner with my best guy-friend, very old school italian mexican in laws.