(Closed) Something only the bees will understand or at least I hope so.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Your engaged right?

Your getting married this year?

im struggling to understand why your upset.. but I hope you feel better soon!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’m so sorry you’re upset, and I hope you start feeling better soon, but I don’t really understand either!  You’re engaged and getting married!  Yay!!  Can you explain anymore about why this is different??

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Chin up, you are getting married this year and it will be fabulous. Feel better.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I can see where you’re coming from. This is “your time” and you’ve had to share it with so many other people (maybe? that’s what I would be feeling…). I think your engagement/wedding time is one of the only times in your life you get to be completely selfish, I have a friend who got engaged and is getting married in June, at first I thought “Ugh…there goes some of my time” (yes, I admit I said that, no I’m not generally like this!) but in my true nature of rationalizing everything I thought about the fact that she only has 6 months and is a pretty high-stress person so I’m going to do everything I can for her then enjoy my 6 months after her wedding is over. I think the biggest thing was the fact that she and her Fiance have been together less than half the time I’ve been with my man, I felt like I “deserved” it or something. I’m not trying to sound like a totally selfish b-word, just trying to let you know you’re not alone in your hesitation!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry I don’t get why you’re upset. Hope you feel better soon. Maybe you feel like she is stealing your thunder???

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m confused also.  If you weren’t engaged and getting married it would be more clear as to why you were upset.  Are you sure you have absolutely no clue as to why you feel this way?  Is there maybe a deeper seeded issue with this?  Do you think maybe you are concerned that she will be stealing some of your limelight?

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think you’re maybe just a little jealous? You feel like your thunder may be stolen?

I’m guessing the shot gun wedding didn’t bother you because, well, of what it was. And when your bestie got engaged, it’s a little different b/c you’r;e closer with her.

Do you have any weird feelings about your FI’s new FBIL? Sometimes it’s hard to be happy for people when you don’t ‘approve’ or ‘get’ their relationship.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmmmm, sounds like you might be jealous not necessarily of her or them, but of how easily things come to them.  I have a situation like that.  My Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law got married shortly after dating, had a house and a beautiful baby all while I was like, “hey, uh, can I have a ring please?”.  It was the WORST.  I had been with Fiance for 4 years by then, and we were struggling.  Could that be it?

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh yeah, don’t be jealous-a couple months and getting married? Good luck with that one is what I’d say…sounds like they’re setting themselves up for problems. How can you quit your job to qualify for low income? That seems like it shouldn’t happen that way. I hope she’s happy staying home FOREVER. I get annoyed with people who manipulate the system, too. Maybe it’s not jealous–maybe it’s just being irritated with their, uh, unorthodox approach?

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