(Closed) Something that gave me strength…

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Very true. I always just say I’m lucky to have met him sooner rather than later and have been able to go through a lot of our hard growth periods (end of hs, college and post-college) together.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I find that quote rather offensive actually. How would you feel if I said that I felt sorry for you? 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@macbookbee123: Yep. I feel like we get discredited because of our age sometimes (which isn’t really all that young, just early 20s) and people overlook that we’ve been together for 4 years, have lived together for 3, have been through losses, life-changing situations, been stressed out and broke students, the whole gambit. We’re now going through the “we own a house together, wtf?” phase. Lol.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Lemma: Just how I read it, but wasn’t it meaning that the quoted person felt sorry for those that judged? So unless you judged, it isn’t meaning every single older bride or something?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@AmeliaBedelia: The reasons stated kind of apply to all older brides.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Like this! I’m tired of being told I’m nuts for marrying under 25… this comment is usually followed by ‘no offence’… which of course, means it’s insulting but you’re not supposed to be hurt by it… lol 

The way I look at it, my husband and I get to grow and experience life together, so that when we do have kids and when those kids grow up hopefully we’ll be young enough to enjoy life after we have an empty nest 😉 I want to be an energetic grandma! 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Lemma:  Yeah, I agree – I’m a younger bride too, but would never say I feel sorry for older brides! If you don’t want them saying stuff about you marrying young, you shouldn’t say anything about the age they get married at either, both are rude.

And I bet I could guess the show this quote is from. Can only think of one show where a bride would actually have the audacity to say, ‘And I’ll look 10 years younger than they do in their wedding pictures…BECAUSE I AM!’

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No one love story is the same. I get what you ladies are saying and feel there are pros and cons to both sides. 

True, older brides probably won’t have their FH with them through the forming years of young adulthood…. and true, younger brides may not be able to experience the world for as many years from a single’s perspective that would enhance their marriage in some ways. 

I don’t find anything offensive in that. Ultimately both kinds of brides find their special someone, I think that’s something to celebrate. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Lemma: I don’t think the focus was on dissing older brides. I don’t think OP was saying the last part of the quote was the good part either, if that’s the part you are referring to. There are pros and cons to being either younger, “average age,” or older.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@SimplyChic11: That’s sort of what I’m saying. There are pros and cons to both, but it would be better to focus on your own pros rather than the other side’s cons. 

If you focus on the good in your situation without putting down other’s choices, then you can ask for the same respect in return.

@Wonderstruck: Ha! Bridezillas right?

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Lemma: Yep, was pretty sure people would know that was the one I meant, haha.

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