(Closed) Something that gave me strength…

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 33
Member
3993 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Lemma: It says she feels sorry for those that judge. “You know what, people may judge me but I feel sorry for them.  I just feel lucky that I met my man at such a young age…” Etc. It doesn’t even say that the ones who judge ARE older brides. But I suppose we all choose what we want to read into when something is quoted.

Post # 34
Member
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@macbookbee123: When you write, it can easily be interpreted differently than how you intended. This is just something to keep in mind when posting in what is supposed to be a forum that is supportive of all brides’ choices. For what it’s worth, if I had innocently posted something and then found out that I insulted somebody without meaning to, I would apologise and edit my original post. Look at how this post has made Ill Be Mrs B feel.

Post # 37
Member
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

andersonsarah You wrote… “Needless to say, I constantly feel like I have to defend my marriage to my family” and that’s what I was referring to. It had nothing to do with the quote.

You could have easily wrote “I was watching a TV program and I overheard a bride say… I feel so lucky to have met my man at such a young age” and leave it at that. It’s the reference to not having to spend decades looking for him and the icing on the cake is how she looked 10 years younger cuz she is.

What if I wrote a post and wrote “I saw a bride on TV saying I’m lucky I waited to meet my man when I’m older and not waste my younger years on being married. Plus I don’t look like a teenager in my pictures” How would you feel?

The point I’m trying to make is by quoting the bride exactly you’ve offended older brides (at least me) when you could have made it by being a bit more selective with words. No matter what age people find love and marry shouldn’t matter, be glad you FOUND it. Life’s to short to care what anyone else thinks about how old or young you are. Go about your life and make each other happy.

Post # 40
Member
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@macbookbee123: People say stuff like that all the time to me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ESPECIALLY the part about wasting the younger years and that I still look like I’m 15 years old LOL

 

Post # 41
Member
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thank you for the apology. I was 19 when I married my first husband, I don’t recall anyone making jokes or comments because of that. To be honest I don’t know how I would feel if they did but remember you’ll never be able to please anyone all the time. Someone is going to say something if they’re judgemental people.

If you’re single “When are you getting married”?

If you’re married “When are you having a baby”?

If you have one child “When are you going to have another baby”?

If you have 6 kids “Why do you have so many kids”?

See… there’s no winning. If you’re in love and want to be married you owe no one nothing. No explanation or reason. You’re doing what’s best for you and your husband. Thats ALL anyone should know. I wish you the best.

Post # 42
Member
1467 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Ill Be Mrs B:‘you owe no one nothing’ lol… I like that. I am honestly a little tired of people being too nosy for their own good. I feel whenever someone gets married there’s someone else asking behind their back why they are with their SO, does he have money, etc…. honestly, and I’ve always thought this, it’s none of their business! 😛 

Post # 43
Member
23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I LOVE THIS! Just what I needed! 

Post # 44
Member
26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I laughed out loud to this post! haha 

 

Whenever we meet our FIs, let’s just be happy that we met them, m’kay? No matter when we meet them, we did, so be happy. 

Post # 45
Member
1699 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This post made me laugh, and reminded me that I AM lucky. Thanks OP 🙂

And it wasn’t offensive unless you chose to read that into it. I do feel sorry for people who judge others, including young brides, I do feel lucky that I met my husband and married young, and I am grateful that it didn’t take decades to find the one. The pictures bit was just a funny barb from a TV show, nothing more 😉

Post # 46
Member
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Everything @MisssPumpkinBarry said. Especially about having kids in my mid-20’s! My mom had me when she and my dad were 25/26, and it was great! They were young enough to be the “cool” parents, but still PARENTS, not friends. Now that I am older and engaged, we are FRIENDS. I love it, and I want that same kind of relationship with my kids!

The topic ‘Something that gave me strength…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors