Post # 1
Why does it seem that among all of the “ZOMG when are it going to happen?! lulz” people, no one thinks to harass the guy? (Yes, I know this is a common gripe)
On top of that (this is the irksome part), why is it that the more vocal of these people seem to think that somehow getting married is going to solve ALL of any problems you may have.
Feeling down, completely unrelated to your relationship? You should get married.
Feeling bored? Get married.
Need a job? Get hitched.
Itchy? Obviously it is because you are unmarried and living in sin. Obviously.
Bad hair day? I think you know the answer to that.
Oh, but you can just go down to the courthouse and spend $30! it’s not that big of a deal!
Because yes, all of a person’s problems can be solved by sealing the deal! Maybe I’m not ready or he’s not ready or someone’s not ready or maybe it’s just not time for it to happen or god forbid it’s been discussed that things “should” happen a certain way, or even no, it’s just not the time for it yet, but it will miraculously solve ALL of my problems.
I’ve taken to hanging up on them/ignoring them, because no amount of “butt out” will make them stop. I don’t even want to talk to these people, because it’s always going to end up being the same. I ate something that didn’t agree with me and my insides are funny. Oh they know what will fix that: GETTING MARRIED!
It makes me feel like I should be sending these people 3 easy payments of $29.95 + S&H for sharing their wondrous knowledge with me…
Post # 3
I can understand why you feel that way, trust me, I’m in the same boat too. SO hasn’t propsed YET. However, I find it that a lot of my friends or family bring up just so it can be a conversation starter. Like, they don’t really know what else to say, so they ask that. I don’t really let it bother me. Of course, getting married wont eliminate any problems that you may have. Besides,once you get married, you’ll start getting the wonderful “So, when are you guys going to start a family”?
Post # 4
I really understand what you’re saying…except for me it’s “When are you going to give me grandchildren/great grandchildren/a neice/a nephew/etc.?” Um…excuse me? What about getting married? What about being financially stable enough to be able to at least feed my kid? The man and I are trying to do things in the order WE think is correct. Don’t get me wrong, I get just as many “Marriage will fix that” comments from people, I’ve just been noticing the baby comments are popping up a lot more frequently as of late.
He and I talk about being engaged and our future marriage frequently, but it’s just plain rude, In My Humble Opinion, to constantly get bombarded by people asking, “You’re having a bad day today? Is it because your boyfriend hasn’t asked you to marry him yet?” WHAT?! How is that any of your business?!
I voted for “a stiff drink”…if you save me a seat up at the bar, I’ll join you.
Post # 5
@Lindsay, I love that “stiff drink” has 11 votes. But yeah, at the rate I am getting it, you would think that I’m going to be on the next episode of Intervention or something! Maybe I will end up on Intervention, for having one too many stiff drinks…
I don’t even think this is a “well do it and then we can harass you about babies” thing, just people talking like they know what is best for me and my life, which always makes me angry.
I’m tempted either not talk to these people for an extended while, or maybe whenever they are venting to me, I will say “oh you should get married; I hear that solves ALL of your problems!”. Instead, I will probably go back to not talking to them, which won’t fix a thing.
Post # 6
I know what you mean about people thinking they know what is best for you in your life. My family and my boyfriend’s family are constantly on me about how everything would be better if I was at least engaged. I mean come on, we’ve been dating 4 years, have talked about getting married for at least 3 of them. Don’t you think I’m ready too? Do you really have to bring it up ALL.THE.TIME? Ugh. Seriously understand what you mean there. It’s also extremely hard to avoid people that talk about it, especially if that includes family, friends, coworkers (all of which my list includes), so I know avoiding all of them wouldn’t solve a thing for me personally.
Also, LMAO at being on Intervention. Save me a seat there too…I’m sure we’re headed there at the same rate!!! Hahaha
I honestly have no advice on this topic, but it feels great to be able to share the same frustrations with someone else. It’s both releaving and sad that someone else is going through this.
Post # 7
I totally understand. I have an aunt who asks me this all the time. Never mind I’m about to buy a house, never mind I do have a job I semit like, never mind I have friends and enjoy traveling–all of that does not matter unless I am married.