Post # 1
Last night, I went over to SO’s parents house with him for a little bit. I knew it was a bad idea. We disagree on a certain key issue that is looked at more than any other issue… you know… that guy who is chief executive of the country. Yeah. Him. We disagree there.
But what really disappointed me was when we switched over to the local news to see which senator for Michigan had been elected.
And being the hardcore republicans that they are, they were upset. And the first comment out of SO’s mom’s mouth was, “She needs to stop sucking off Ronald McDonald!”
Now. Her makeup may not be great, but does that matter? Here is a woman who is doing a job that does not require that she look attractive. At least that’s how I look at it. She is supposed to be using her brain.
Do you know if I spent 15 less minutes a day (usually my maximum limit) doing my hair and make up, I’d have 105 extra minutes a week, 420 extra minutes a month and approximately 5040 extra minutes a year to do something… I don’t know… productive?
I just had to vent. I hate when a woman who’s job is not to look attractive, but to be intelligent and poised, is judged based on her appearances. And I know there are plenty of threads out there like this, but this just irritates the hell out of me…
Post # 3
@Cornmuffin09: Yeah. Sounda like SO’s mom was being too hard on her. That is a low blow. Politics bring out the worst in people. Who cares what she looks like? I think she looks fine.
Post # 4
@Cornmuffin09: Good for you for not losing it. I don’t do well in those types of situations.
Post # 5
Whoa, that’s crazy.
And coming from a makeup artist, there’s nothing wrong with her makeup :
Post # 6
When people haven’t got anything intelligent to say they usually go for low blows, such as looks.
I like your example of time management, so to speak. However, I disagree. I think whenever you work within the public, or even in a cubical, the way you present yourself physically does matter a whole lot on how you will be viewed and respected.
Post # 7
Sounds to me like your Mother-In-Law had nothing intelligent to say in regards to this woman being elected so she stooped to criticizing her appearance. That speaks volumes of the kind of woman your Mother-In-Law is. I’d wager a bet that she wouldn’t last a millisecond in a government elected position. Normally people who have to resort to name calling aren’t the brightest bulbs in the box.
ETA: And uh… I see nothing wrong with how she looks in that picture. Red lipstick isn’t really my thing but I think it looks perfectly fine on her. I’d be interested to see what your Mother-In-Law looks like. I’m going to go ahead and assume she’s not a perfect 10.
Post # 8
Ugh. Sexist bullshit. I would have been pissed too. Debbie Stabenow is a great senator.
Post # 9
PS I always felt that way about time spent on looks, personally. I am kind of an idealist, and in college I didn’t understand the girls that would spend a long time everyday doing hair and makeup- (to each their own- I just spent my time being creative or hiking.)
Post # 10
I would have responded to your SO’s mom by saying “looks like you know a lot about how someone looks after sucking off Ronald Mcdonald – is it from personal experience?”
But seriously, she sounds like a hateful ole you know what.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
That is the most crass thing I’ve heard in the last few days. I think I might have walked out of the room if someone said that in my presence.
Post # 12
@cornmuffin09: I’m going to play devil’s advocate here. I’m sorry but I chuckled a bit when I read the comment. It was kinda amusing in a not politically correct kinda way.
You’ve never made a bitchy comment about someone you didn’t like? She was just talking to the TV.
Sure, it’s a bit immature, but if we’re prim and proper all the time, life is boring. Politics never bring out the good in people. I’d just brush it off – you’ll feel a lot better when you do.
I am sure she doesn’t have the general view that politicans need to look like supermodels. She just made a bitchy comment. I am pretty sure all of us make bitchy comments at some point. It wasn’t directed at you. She was simply frustrated and taking it out on the TV. People express themselves in different ways. I don’t think she’s a bad person or anything.
Unless she is one of those people who does this behind people’s backs (like people that she knows), I’d just try and forget about this.. don’t let her get to you.
Post # 13
@canarydiamond: The big problem is I HAVE seen her say nasty things like this behind people’s back (oh god… I hope she never ever sees this). I really love her. She’s overall a great woman, and overall a better role model than either my mom or my stepmom. (and I totally respect you for playing devil’s advocate, and if you hadn’t mentioned that I might have been irritable because I’m moody as all hell lately. XD)
As a note to everyone. I love the woman. She’s pretty amazing, my SO mom. She’s put up with a lot of shit. I think it’s more her husband is very very staunchly republican and she said it more to take the pressure off. Especially when everyone in the room knew where I stood on the political issues.
I just get so tired of the first thing in women’s minds, often being to judge other women based on their looks. Men may do it a bit. But I seriously think women are the worst offenders of judging women based on looks and it just upsets me, and I try very hard not to be like that.
Post # 14
@cornmuffin09: I totally get it… and you never know what comment will upset you, right? I’m a really sensitive person and the oddest things get to me.
I guess you just need to look at the positives (like you just did in your latest post), and try to forget about this one. No one is perfect.
Agreed, women are SO mean to each other. I think though at least this particular comment of hers stemmed a bit out of fear. We recently had an election in the province I live in Canada and things got HEATED. I felt like my job could be threatened if a particular party got in. I am sure I said some choice things. So I’d try to give her the benefit of the doubt.. at least this time.
Now go focus on something happy!! 🙂
Post # 15
That irritates me too. it makes me want to high five hilary clinton for turning it around on her interviewer. the reporter asked her who she was wearing and clinton asked if they would ever have asked that question to a man and the reporter simply said ‘no, I guess not.’