- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
So first of all, please tell me if I’m over reacting, and just need to snap out of it.
I haven’t talked to anyone about this, because I don’t want to sound like I’m feeling bad for myself. But it’s been seriously bothering me.
On my wedding day, I saw my mom for a maximum of 5 minutes, and that was when she put my dress on me. She was busy setting up for the wedding, because we DIY’d all of the food, setup, flowers, etc. for the day of. It was a lot of work. BUT, we had a full week to prepare, and I feel like my mom procrastinated. I helped with everything I could help with, but she isn’t very good at delegating projects.
When it came time for me to start getting ready for the wedding, I knew there were still a bunch of projects to do, but I checked in with my mom to make sure she was good for me to be out of commission. She said ‘Of course! Go get ready!’.
So I realized, when looking through my 1,200+ pictures, that I do not have ONE picture with my mom. The only one is of her putting my dress on, and I know she’d kill me if I posted it, because she’s not dressed/has no makeup on, etc.
And this then led me to realize that after her putting my dress on at 3:30pm, I didn’t once speak with her the rest of the night, until it was time for me to leave. Not one hug, not one ‘Congratulations’..nothing. I know she was overwhelmed, but all I wanted that day was to have my mom there with me for at least some of the special things (getting my hair done, photos of us having a toast, etc.), but she wasn’t there at all.
I couldn’t figure out what I was missing that day, and it was my mom. She might as well have not been there, because I had no support from her that day, whatsoever.
I know she wasn’t mad at me for any reason, and that it was most likely because she was busy, but I just don’t feel like she was excited for me.
When she did a toast, it was for her friends who helped her get everything ready for the day. NOTHING mentioning myself or my new husband.
I don’t think I’ll ever approach her about this, because I would hate to taint the day with a sour note. But it’s just something that I think I’ll always be upset about, privately.
Sorry for the novel…I just needed to get this off of my chest.
Has anyone had a similar situation?