(Closed) Something to hide back/shoulders..?

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
  • poll: Can a lace bolero go with this dress?
    Sure, just find a simple one! : (13 votes)
    20 %
    Sure, just try to find one with lace that is similar to the detail on the dress! : (24 votes)
    37 %
    NO way! Not much you could do with that dress... Looks like you're stuck going bare-shouldered! : (8 votes)
    12 %
    Probably not.... But I'll suggest another alternative in a comment! :) : (4 votes)
    6 %
    Other (please post!) : (16 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    1257 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I did not vote because I do not think you need anything! I think you are BEAUTIFUL and have nothing to worry about. Adding a bolero or something with bring attention to your shoulders and arms and MAKE THEM look larger that they are. Girl, you do not need anything!

    Post # 4
    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2005

    I agree with miss.  You are beautiful so I didn’t vote either.  I had pretty severe backne growing up so I have scars on my back as well and I am a larger woman sadly lacking in the boob department but you know what?  I owned it all.  My wedding, my dream dress, my dream husband, no one complained or commented on my scars or my arm flab and if they did I would have just turned my scarred back to them and kindly told them to kiss my behind.  Your Aunt is just being cruel for the sake of being cruel.  Don’t let her get to you and show off those gorgeous curves, you are beautiful and that dress is amazing!

    Edit:  The little details on the top of your dress would be missed if you added something to cover.  Because it is a dress made for bare shoulders you don’t want to miss the lacy bits that would be covered or looked over from a top

    Post # 5
    3775 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I would skip the bolero too.  Your dress is too gorgeous without it.  I think the bolero would take away from the dress.

    Post # 6
    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    What scars?  I honestly can’t see a thing on your back – you look BEAUTIFUL!  Don’t let some petty comments your aunt said bring you down.  That dress is amazing on you and you should show it off.  I think that if you get a jacket, it’ll take away from the look.

    Post # 7
    3823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m not seeing anything on your back and shoulders. If you feel that self concious about it, perhaps a little powder, but seriously it’s not showing up in the picture. And your dress is gorgeous!

    Post # 8
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You look great, and your dress is OMG worthy. 

    Post # 9
    3141 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Though I don’t think that you need one, your dress makes you look absolutely stunning!!! But I do understand how you feel and you definitely want to be comfortable and not looking at your photos with regret that you did not wear one. It’s about you and how you will feel the most beautiful

    Post # 10
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    how about osme make up to hide the scares? I did a shear bolero that was flattering and hide my insecurities (I have a birth scar the size of a cantelope on my back that showed without it). I got it at davids bridal for $20.

    Post # 11
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @lovelove1028:  You look perfectly lovely to me, darling!

    Post # 12
    9549 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I really honestly truly absolutely do not see any scars. I would wear the dress as is. You look stunning. And it does amazing things for your body! Don’t listen to your aunt. I’d have to see a bolero to see if it wouuld work – if you really want one, could you get one that you can return in case it looks funny?

    Post # 13
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think you absolutely do not need anything to cover your back/shoulders/arms. As a plus size bride myself who absolutely hates my arms and never exposes them in public…I would kill to have yours. You look beautiful exactly as is

    Post # 14
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think u shld go with d same bolero as @bestbuddi it is really pretty, and it won’t hide d details of ur gown.


    Post # 15
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    Shame on your aunt for saying something so mean and petty. Don’t pay a scrap of attention to her.

    That said: I *love* sleeves and boleros with wedding gowns and I think the whole strapless thing is seriously overdone. I also don’t buy the BS that covering up your arms makes them look bigger/draws more attention to them – I think that’s a line that bridal shop salespeople feed customers to try to justify why 98% of the gowns they carry are strapless … when really I suspect that it’s because the designers and manufacturers save themselves money, time and trouble by skipping the sleeves.

    Anyhow, (ending anti-strapless screed) the awesome thing about a bolero is that it’s removeable and lends flexibility to your ensemble. Personally, I think a bolero is wonderful for the ceremony (especially if it’s a church/religious ceremony) and then you can always take it off for the reception if you want to mix it up.

    I would see if you can check out a couple of boleros with your gown. Not all of them will cover up the detail. It’s worth looking into!

    Post # 16
    628 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @lovelove1028:  I don’t see anything wrong with your shoulders…how are you wearing your hair? Have you considered some of the spray on coverup (that does not come off of course!)? I think the dress is lovely without a bolero.

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