(Closed) Something to think about for people who don't like buying off of a registry…

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

prepare an umbrella – get ready for angry comments storm..

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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FutureMrsJohnson_:  Yes, I feel oh-so bad for you that you have family and friends who love you, come to your wedding, spend time, thought and hard earned money to pick out something special that they think you’ll love… how dare they? Don’t they know if it’s not something 100% guaranteed you’ll like (i.e. something you specifically dictated they buy for you), then don’t get anything at all?! I mean, it’s such a huge hassle to have to donate something to people in need.

Not all adults are stupid. If they didn’t buy off your registry, they know there’s a chance it isn’t something you need or desperately want. So don’t even try to act innocent and oh-so charitable with your “I just don’t want them wasting their money!” gab. You’re just pissed you got an ugly snowglobe rather than the expensive gadget you threw on your registry that no one bothered to buy for you.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

The personalized snow globe sounds like something someone put a lot of thought into, hoping you would like it. It makes me said to imagine how they would feel if they knew you were sh*tting on them online about it… 

I get what you are saying, I do. But try and remind yourself to be greatful, becuase, you know, karma.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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SoonAsYouCan:  Wow, someone’s bitter.  It’s not like a giant personalized snow globe is super useful for people in need… or anyone for that matter. OP never said she was ungrateful. Just because you don’t want something cluttering up your house doesn’t mean you hate the gift giver and wish they bought you expensive gadgets.  She didn’t say that anywhere in her post.

OP I totally get it.  I hate the expectation that you MUST register because like you we already have all the “stuff” we need, but I’m honestly too scared not to register for the fear of getting giant snow globes.  Oh well, such is life!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I understand exactly what you mean OP and am not taking it that you are ungrateful. But I do think that they were trying to be thoughtful and unique with the gift.  are you sure you won’t keep at least one to place in your home during the holidays?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Country Club

LOL, I don’t know why anyone would give a personalized snow globe, unless the couple collected them or something. I completely agree with you. The registry is there to give people an idea of what you need and what you already have. I hate getting duplicates.  It is very thoughtful of people to give gifts, but they could at least give gifts that the receiver will enjoy. And if they don’t know what to give, just give money or a gift card. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Some people are not great at gift-giving. But you do sound ungrateful because “We had a few people that went off registry, which was kind of disappointing tbh” and you’d rather them be rude and come empty handed than for you to have to deal with 2 snow globes. I prefer sentiment over style any day.

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

All of our gifts (on and off-registry) were great, so we weren’t faced with this dilemma. I understand where you are coming from though – I HATE donating or getting rid of something that was a gift; it makes me feel ungrateful and guilty even if the gifter will never know… but keeping it in a box somewhere or cluttering up storage space with something I will never use or display feels ridiculous, too. 

Full disclosure – I am a registry or cash gifter for this reason – I don’t want anyone to feel like they must keep something random I picked out. I might add on a more personal gift for a really close friend or family member if I know it’s something they want.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I think people go off registry if there isn’t anything left that they want to give (let’s be honest…towels are not super fun) OR they have given a personal gift in the past that was very much appreciated so now it’s their go-to gift. I almost always include the kate spade mr/mrs classes or william sonoma initial mugs with my gift (usually a card with check) because so many people have told me that they love them.

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I’m sorry but you got married in November and are now just getting around to OPENING your gifts?!  How were you that busy that you didn’t have 10 minutes to sit down and open presents?  How were you that busy that you didn’t have 10 minutes each night to start on thank you cards?  My mind is more boggled by the fact that you it took you over 2 months to open presents then the fact that you don’t know what to do with some snowglobes.

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