Post # 1
DH and I got married this past November, it was amazing and everything we wanted. Since then, we have been so busy with work, holidays, etc. that we hadn’t even opened our gifts yet! Crazy, I know. So this weekend we finally buckled down, opened the gifts, and started on the thank you cards…
I might get flamed for this but I just DO.NOT.GET. why people buy off registry. If it’s something handmade, we’re certain to love it, but just buying kitchen “things” or decor “things” willy nilly usually doesn’t work out for established couples or picky couples – of which we are both.
We had a few people that went off registry, which was kind of disappointing tbh. We would have preferred that they just come with a card or nothing at all, than something that we’re going to have to donate because of duplicates (we’ve lived together for over 2.5 years at this point) or just no room. It’s just a waste of their hard earned money. Two gifts in particular though…we got two of the exact same design, HUGE, personalized/engraved snow globes that just aren’t our taste at all – WHAT ARE THE ODDS – they look like something from a “Thiings Remembered” store and were probably pretty expensive. The two people that purchased the snowglobes don’t know each other and have never even been inside our home (so they don’t know how we decorate, etc.). So now, we have these two snow globes that have no idea what to do with – store them for the possiblity of the gift giver ever coming over? Try to get the engraved plaque replaced so we can regift to someone who might actually like it? What do we do??
Of course, the gift givers are going to receive very gracious thank you notes because we do appreciate the thought, but I doubt that us trying to figure out what to do with their gift was not what they had in mind when they purchased that snow globe for our home.
Post # 2
prepare an umbrella – get ready for angry comments storm..
Post # 3
I know I’m going to get it. It just seems like a waste to me. We really would have preferred they just come to the wedding sans gift and enjoyed themselves.
Post # 4
Yes, I feel oh-so bad for you that you have family and friends who love you, come to your wedding, spend time, thought and hard earned money to pick out something special that they think you’ll love… how dare they? Don’t they know if it’s not something 100% guaranteed you’ll like (i.e. something you specifically dictated they buy for you), then don’t get anything at all?! I mean, it’s such a huge hassle to have to donate something to people in need.
Not all adults are stupid. If they didn’t buy off your registry, they know there’s a chance it isn’t something you need or desperately want. So don’t even try to act innocent and oh-so charitable with your “I just don’t want them wasting their money!” gab. You’re just pissed you got an ugly snowglobe rather than the expensive gadget you threw on your registry that no one bothered to buy for you.
Post # 5
Lol I’m really really not mad that they didn’t buy us a “fancy gadget” off of our registry, and I actually do wish they would have saved their money no matter what you may think about me. the point is, is that the people who don’t buy off of the registry don’t WANT their gifts to be donated, I know I wouldn’t, that wasn’t the point of the gift. But that is the end result, at least for us.
Post # 6
The personalized snow globe sounds like something someone put a lot of thought into, hoping you would like it. It makes me said to imagine how they would feel if they knew you were sh*tting on them online about it…
I get what you are saying, I do. But try and remind yourself to be greatful, becuase, you know, karma.
Post # 7
Wow, someone’s bitter. It’s not like a giant personalized snow globe is super useful for people in need… or anyone for that matter. OP never said she was ungrateful. Just because you don’t want something cluttering up your house doesn’t mean you hate the gift giver and wish they bought you expensive gadgets. She didn’t say that anywhere in her post.
OP I totally get it. I hate the expectation that you MUST register because like you we already have all the “stuff” we need, but I’m honestly too scared not to register for the fear of getting giant snow globes. Oh well, such is life!
Post # 8
I understand exactly what you mean OP and am not taking it that you are ungrateful. But I do think that they were trying to be thoughtful and unique with the gift. are you sure you won’t keep at least one to place in your home during the holidays?
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2016 - Country Club
LOL, I don’t know why anyone would give a personalized snow globe, unless the couple collected them or something. I completely agree with you. The registry is there to give people an idea of what you need and what you already have. I hate getting duplicates. It is very thoughtful of people to give gifts, but they could at least give gifts that the receiver will enjoy. And if they don’t know what to give, just give money or a gift card.
Post # 10
In my original post I did say that we appreciate the thought and we will/have thanked them for their gift, it just won’t be used in the spirit it was intended which is unfortunate.
Yes! Thank you! We were forced to register in the first place because not registering is “rude” and basically a “cash grab,” so we took the time to think about what we needed and registered for those items…just to have this happen. Related story: I went to a baby shower last month where not one person besides myself and my mom bought of the registry, she literally got over 60 baby outfits…She came up to me afterward and thanked me for actually buying off the registry. She said she was going to have to exchange a bunch of them because they were mostly newborns sizes and baby was already measuring 8 lbs…he wouldn’t have even fit into half those clothes! Crazy.
Post # 11
Some people are not great at gift-giving. But you do sound ungrateful because “We had a few people that went off registry, which was kind of disappointing tbh” and you’d rather them be rude and come empty handed than for you to have to deal with 2 snow globes. I prefer sentiment over style any day.
Post # 12
All of our gifts (on and off-registry) were great, so we weren’t faced with this dilemma. I understand where you are coming from though – I HATE donating or getting rid of something that was a gift; it makes me feel ungrateful and guilty even if the gifter will never know… but keeping it in a box somewhere or cluttering up storage space with something I will never use or display feels ridiculous, too.
Full disclosure – I am a registry or cash gifter for this reason – I don’t want anyone to feel like they must keep something random I picked out. I might add on a more personal gift for a really close friend or family member if I know it’s something they want.
Post # 13
I think people go off registry if there isn’t anything left that they want to give (let’s be honest…towels are not super fun) OR they have given a personal gift in the past that was very much appreciated so now it’s their go-to gift. I almost always include the kate spade mr/mrs classes or william sonoma initial mugs with my gift (usually a card with check) because so many people have told me that they love them.
Post # 14
I’m sorry but you got married in November and are now just getting around to OPENING your gifts?! How were you that busy that you didn’t have 10 minutes to sit down and open presents? How were you that busy that you didn’t have 10 minutes each night to start on thank you cards? My mind is more boggled by the fact that you it took you over 2 months to open presents then the fact that you don’t know what to do with some snowglobes.
Post # 15
As of right now, they’re both sitting in our dining room getting “thunk” over lol. My Mother-In-Law would actually love it but only if it had her and her husband’s names and wedding date – so that’s why we thought we might regift one if we’re able. The other…I’m not sure what we can do, but we’ll probably keep it and just take it out during Christmastime like you said.
Even just a card would have been more than enough! I usually give cash or buy specifically off of the registry because of this exact reason lol, I’d rather give them something that they can use